It's called google, sweetheart. Check out the world of kink. We're here, we're freaks, get used to it.

It sounds like you're both interested in experimenting. Maybe check out online ads and see what's going on in that "world" first.

If you're both attracted to your friend, talk to her, draw her out. She knows a lot. Have a nice, sensuous dinner with wine and play some nice music. PF would recommend jazz.

We have been googling things but as you are probably aware, in real life, things are rarely like porn.

With the soft threesomes we have tried, we have always had the luxury of picking the other person, but we're not sure how an orgy would work. Do people just pair off with one another, or break into threesomes or just pile into a giant group?

Does anyone have experiences with them? Good? Bad? Do again or never again?

Well, my SO and didn't go to the orgy on the weekend. We did spend quite a bit of time talking about it, which led to some pretty hot nights

We met with our friend on Sunday afternoon for a few pints and she blew my SO's mind with her account of the event. Apparently there were 8 couples and some "select" singles there and a couple of the girls, our friend included, were treated to a little all-males-invited group session.

She's really put us more at ease about the whole idea. She's promised us that if we go to the one next month that she'll ask everyone to take it easy on the newbies.

Guess we'll see how things go next month.

The Mr. and I had a brief experimental period years ago, and we attended several swingers parties. They are more like a jr. high dance than anyone would ever like to believe--lots of people standing around looking nervous. It seemed that for the majority, they only felt comfortable acting on their impulses if they were well-lubricated with adult beverages. Me, I wanted to remember it all; if I don't want to do it sober, (whatever "it" is), I don't want to do it.

Going to the party was the Mr's idea, and I was very nervous with all the usual insecurities, and was sure no one would give me a second look. He figured he was going to get laid a lot. Turns out, that's not how it worked out, and ultimately, we quit at his request. It didn't live up to the fantasy for him; for me, it was an amazing time, except for the very grumpy hubby. And that was enough for me to let it go. I would say we learned a great deal about ourselves, and each other, from the experience, but it also took us to the very edge as a couple; we were lucky we were able to step back from a fatal drop.

I would recommend you go with very low expectations, and some ground rules decided upon in advance as to what is acceptable and what is not, and stick to it. It is not for the faint of heart.

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Truer wisdom there is not. Ones participation in an orgy is at the risk of misinterpretation of intentions by the SO. Always know that it's just a fuck. When I am being fucked, I let my emotions flow. Sometimes when being satisfied most deeply, I say things that can be misunderstand. In the keeping of the ground rules, "What happens when orgying, stays in the orgy." No expectations of our SO and no holds barred in release of body to sexual/sensual participation. Fuck my brains out sweetheart. I love sex.

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In my experience, men that are emotionally and physically involved with a woman tend to have issues in those sorts of scenarios, even MMF threesomes, and I have been the odd male in more than a few of those.

I personally haven't been plagued by that, as I enjoy seeing my partner being pleasured and joining in, but I have female friends that have chosen to experience it that have not included or informed their spouses or S/O's. In most cases, it seems that is the better option for a woman who is interested.

As an afterthought, I am basically straight in a one-on-one situation, but in the threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, you do whatever is in front of your face.

Thanks guys, and gals. I've played around a bit in the past with threesomes, and one foursome, but have only done some soft threesomes with my current SO (everything but penetration for those involved). She had been a bit hesitant about anything full-on.

Since talking with her friend she's really taken to this whole orgy idea. Thanks AZRedHot, I'll do my best to keep her expectations as low as possible and we will try to setup some ground rules.

Who knows, maybe this is her way of trying to get over her hesitations she had.

Glad it went well!!

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Thanks Osuche. It helps to frequent a place where a number of member have a lot more experience than us, and good advice to boot.

She told me that she found out that she was a lot braver in her mind than in person as she felt really nervous and intimidated when we first arrived. She didn't realize how difficult it would be to just "jump in". She did tell me that she now wished that we had gone all the way with our previous adventures, rather than just some touching or minimal oral. Hind-sight is always 20-20