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Old 12-17-2001, 05:05 PM
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Question Advice on anal

Need advice on anal. Been with girl for 2 years, had anal sex once every few weeks at first. She said it was ok, even seemed to like it a bit, at first, but needed to run to bathroom as soon as it was over. Now, she says it hurts like hell no matter how much lube, or how slow. She says it hurts too much to even get it in most of the time. When we can get it in, she says it's best to put it all in at once, slowly, with no foreplay or easing in and out. Also doesn't want to try it with her on top. Any advice on best positions, how often it could/should it be done, or attempted, and should enema be a must?

P.S. Tried desensitizing lube, she says it didn't help.
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Old 12-17-2001, 05:46 PM
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Since you seem to have most of the bases covered: lubrication, taking it slowly, etc. I advise starting off with some smaller "toys" before attempting penetration. Also, this topic have been discussed extensively here at pixies. A search of the site should turn up some relevant results, some with links to sites for info.
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Old 12-17-2001, 06:17 PM
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if you've tried everything....

My experience, especially with some one new to this, is the same as everyone says. Take it slow, slow , slow, and use plenty of lubrication.
Make sure she is relaxed. A drink or two maybe.
Give her a few legshaking orgasms first, to get the juices flowing, i.e oral, toys, or all of the above.
Try talking to her, maybe she just isn't into it? Communication is always a plus.
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Old 12-19-2001, 01:34 PM
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Bummer?

Sounds as though perhaps she was doing it, at first, to

please you and now is asserting that she just doesn't

really like it.

Ask her before you chase miracle cures for a problem

she doesn't want cured.
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Old 12-21-2001, 09:12 AM
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You're probably right, but she is usually the one to say let's keep trying. I don't really ask any more.
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Old 12-22-2001, 09:12 PM
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Ok, since she says keep trying, sounds like maybe she likes the idea, just the deed itself hurts; I think the enema beforehand is a good idea, it can't be healthy to be pushing stuff up her gut, and it would decrease the need to run to the potty right away! Just my 2.75 cents worth (adjusted for inflation)
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Old 12-28-2001, 01:12 PM
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Agree with OldFart...

Hate to say this but it sounds like she is trying to let you know that she doesn't prefer it. Once in a while to please you is about the best you will be able to hope for.

I may be wrong here...you should sit down with her and talk about it. Try not to get defensive if she confirms that she doesn't like it.

good luck!

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Old 01-09-2002, 12:20 AM
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On the running to the bathroom as soon as its over, the semen may be acting as an enema, and the thrusting is giving her bowels some stimulation too. I've had that problem, but it is not a problem if the guy wears a condom. I always request that the guy wear a condom for anal, even if disease is of no concern with that partner or between us as long-term partners.

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