I have a 15 year old daughter that had created a Myspace account. My wife stumbled across it one time on the net.

She didn't know that we knew about it until we found stuff out there we didn't like and had to confront her. It wasn't that she lied about really important stuff. Just little things, but the big one was her age.

She put on there that she was 17 and sure enough, had posts from random net people along the order of "have you had sex yet?" and "do you have a web cam?" Stuff like that.

Anyway--we made her shut it down but still search out there because she has a computer at her moms house (exwife) and can pretty much do whatever she wants.

I deal with that a little myself. She spends a lot of weekends at her Grandparents and is unrestricted and unsupervised on the computer as far as I know. At home her Net use is very regulated.

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Holy hell man, I hope you are not talking to me.

Seems like you have something to say to everyone so I will assume it is not because I am the new guy.

So yeah, I have no idea whats up with that.

it looks like a g/f or wife or someone else got a hold of platinum's account and is trolling pixies with it and posting many hurtful comments, either that or the real platinum went troll....it happens sometimes...

ignor the flames and don't feed the trolls

I started heavy on the net when I was oh lets see now geez it was some time ago.... I was about 15-16, I chatted with people ranging generally like 13ish-22ish, it's funny looking back now that my sister is that age and thinking about the things I was talking about with those other people lol though we were considered quite the perverted group

as to how to handle the situation I couldn't tell ya , perhaps the tough love approach is right, it's a hard balance between giving them room to grow and making sure they aren't putting themselves in danger

though danger isn't the best thing for me to talk about, by the time I was 16 I was traveling to the states for long periouds of time and by 19 had covered most of the northern states on my own lol alot of time depending on complete strangers for assistance and places to stay at time, and I never once ran into any danger... however I'm also amazingly lucky so I would tell any of my kids asking this *if I had any* that they are freaking crazy lol I still can't believe my parents trusted me that much, but alls well that ends well
definatly an interesting topic though, I like discussions along this line

aw to be young again, when danger wasn't lurking around every corner

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just a little thought, Research in Uk has shown that sexual abuse of minors normally happens from people within the family or the familes circle of friends, and that its unlikely that abuse will start from an source such as the net.

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Aqua my daughter has had a MS account for quite awhile and it's been pretty harmless. I got an invite from a friend of mine and created one too so yes part of the reason I haven't been here a lot is because I've become a MS junkie myself. Some of the friends I've made are now her friends as well and vice versa. Never hurts to have extra eyes on duty if ya know what I mean. So far I have nothing negative to say about it, I'm sure there are exceptions but I've seen nothing bad personally except the usual idiots in chat. Hope my 2 cents worth helped in some way and best of luck to you.

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Hey Bear! I've been wondering why you haven't been around so much. I appreciate your input.

I thank you all for your advice... and welcome any further advice anyone might want to add.

I won't be addressing this issue until my child gets back from my ex's though.

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You should talk to her, and let her know the dangers of being on the internet.

I had a MS account, but deleted it after 6 months. I don't know about y'all, but I found it boring and overhyped.

I agree with Satyriasis, talk with your daughter about it. Will it may be true that the majority of sexual abuse happens by those closest to the person the net opens up a new door.

Just be open and honest about how you feel.

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My daughter came to me a few days ago and asked if she could have an acct. there and I told her ok but watch what you put on there. I asked to see her space yesterday. Guess what? She had her REAL name, her city, state AND her Picture up! She's 16. GEEZE! We immediately went thru all the personal stuff she had on there and deleted it. Kids just don't GET IT. Keep checking Aqua. I know I AM!

Thanks (((CGT))))...

and don't worry... I am.

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Aqua,

You realise she's probably posted a thread "Father is on MyCase".

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In memory of my friend skip...
Go then, there are other worlds than these

OMFG!!


That's too damn funny OF!

My son is 14 and has friends with MySpace accounts but has yet to ask us for permission to access MySpace. I think his mind is still reeling from getting busted trying to search for "boobeys".

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