I am sorry to hear that, no wonder your emotions are in overdrive. Other poeples experiences can be a guide to follow but you still have to walk the path for yourself. Think about what I said in seeking counseling. It changed my life.

Vigil,

I find your approach interesting. Perhaps he could sue her for "breach of trust".

Kendall

Have to agree with the communication part, talk, talk, talk, as long as you have communication, love, and openess, in an relationship you can overcome anything, infidelity leads to mistrust, and without trust the very foundation of your relationship will be cracked and for most it is a crack that can Never be filled.

And on the grass note also remember:...the Grass is Always Greenest Over the Septic Tank!!!!

UPDATE:

I tried taking the advice about looking at the physical qualities that I do like. This has caused a suprisingly ... uh, good reaction:D . You see, I prefer her to stay clean shaven (pubes) as much as possible. Unfourtunately, she hasn't had enough time to stay smooth for an extended period of time in quite a while. She hasn't shaved for an unusually long time causing her to grow quite a bush. What I didn't realize is that the longer they are the more of turnoff for me. I decided to try the hands on approach and whenever I feel she needs a shave, I'll justget her to drop everything, take her into the bedroom and give her a very close shave. Of course, with me being that close to her pussy, by the time I'm finished, I'm so horny that I almost attack her. Before now, I hadn't realized how good she looks on all fours with her ass as high in the air as possible. That is one thing that turns me on more than anything else in this world. She has the best ass and pussy. With my new found enthusiasm she's seemed a little more receptive to anal play, that happens to be the 2nd hottest thing for me. With all this sex lately, our "romantic lovelife" has also blossomed. Because my intense love for her I can't help but to just make love (vs. fucking) with her. The other night we went slow, looking into each others eye's, purposely holding out until we couldn't stand it anymore. I guess it was because of the rekindled attraction I have for her that made it so different. It was like it was our first time, only better.

Needless to say, we are doing much better. We still have a lot to work out but we're well on our way.

Thanks for all the help

YAY!!! for you and YAY!!! for her! Sometimes it is hard to be a Goddess 24/7 but it's a hell of a lot easier if someone worships us and reminds us we are!!!!

It must be very hard to be with someone you aren't physically attracted to. I know me personally, I could never be with someone I wasn't attracted to but what a person has inside means so much more to me these days. In the long run I would rather be with someone who has a good heart then great looks. I have to admit though being with someone who looks so good to me turns me on so much which makes for great lust and great sex that I want it all the time 24-7. I could never get bored with it. Maybe you can make some suggestions to your wife in a very subtle way about things that maybe she can do to make herself look more appealing to you. You must have seen something in her to make you marry her. One huge plus would be for her self esteem to be built up and by you helping her with that would make her feel so much better about herself that things could start to change for you in your way of thinking. I have met a lot of good looking people that had absolutely nothing going for them excepts their looks and they turned out to be nothing more then shallow, uninteresting, boring people. So then what do you have? Nothing that's what. Looks are only skin deep and I truly believe that now. I consider myself to be an attractive women, I have the classic blonde hair, blue eyes but I am always trying to improve on myself I think we all need to. I can't imagine being unattractive that must be very hard for people to deal with. We have to take what we are born with and make the absolute best of what we have and by doing that it means improving our personalities along with our physical looks. A nice personality goes a long way in making a person attractive.

life is too short and time too fleeting not to tell the one u love how u feel~~~~~~~~hope things keep going from strength to strength for u two! xxxxxxxxxxxx