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fzzy 03-16-2004 06:19 PM

If you start feeling bad about what you have to do, just remember that it's not just you that's making sacrifices for your success, but your hubby and boys as well....You deserve to be treated fairly by her....but that doesn't always change how someone else is .... tell her she's got a chance to get back on track with the other projects you are doing together and if she doesn't then you won't be able to do anymore projects with her in future either. Sometimes being a truly good friend means letting the person know they have boundaries and if they don't work in them, then there are consequences. If she's willing to learn that lesson, it will be the very best lesson you can give her that should last a lifetime - and that's being a really GREAT friend. (((hugs)))

Lilith 03-16-2004 06:45 PM

Thank fzzy! I think I may just take my flogger to school:p

dicksbro 03-16-2004 07:14 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Lilith
I gently prodded her through last semester. But although I am almost old enough to be, I am not her mother and am not gonna coddle her for 2.5 years.


You've already went farther than you needed to. The others gave you good advice. Not to worry ... I think this could be a good lesson for her and with luck ... falling off the first project will wake her up.

Aqua 03-16-2004 07:37 PM

Re: *Come to Jesus*
 
Quote:
Originally posted by Lilith
I have... a total... ass... that... 4... have done. At this point... our sexy professor... says... today... have another big... hard... come... with a friend... and... an anal... freak... :dizzy:

Any advice on how you would handle her would be appreciated.

Uhm... Not sure about handling her, but I am willing to be your anal freak. :p

Lilith 03-16-2004 07:40 PM

DB~ I sure hope so...I love her and want her to be a great teacher.

My anal freak~ TY for always putting things into a perspective I can handle:p

LixyChick 03-17-2004 06:34 AM

All that can be said about this has been said Lil. And, I'm sure, thought of first by you! You, my friend, are a people pleaser. No matter what you think you convey here (dom mistress).....your heart is on your sleeve and it seems to me like this girl knows it too and will take advantage of it at every turn. She'll also try and turn it around on you....like her failing is your fault. DON'T FALL FOR IT! Like everyone said above....you've gone above and beyond already! Do what you have to do to make YOURSELF feel comfortable with this situation.....but keep that level head on your shoulders and follow your heart. You know what it's saying!

((((Lilith)))) Best of luck!

Lilith 03-17-2004 07:00 AM

Thanks...maybe I should tell her over a green beer or 3957849085239573897:p

kgb253 03-17-2004 07:20 AM

There's such a thing as being too helpful and it sounds like she's been taking advantage of your help and others.

Time to tell her to get off her butt as she wont get a free ride anymore from anyone in the class, it's a case of work for it or fail on her own efforts, not others, with noone to blame but herself.

Best of luck on your course!!!

uwish6969 03-17-2004 10:24 AM

I say you just throw her a beatin and explain you were left no other alternatives.

Lilith 03-17-2004 02:22 PM

It did not go well....happened at a bad time and in front of others because she brought it up. I'll keep ya posted on how it all turns out.

kgb253 03-17-2004 02:32 PM

If she gets upset she only has herself to blame, she had plenty of time to participate and do her bit.

If she gives you grief about it, then tell her to go bungi jump off a tall bridge, and don't bother to tie her bungi cord.

rabbit 03-18-2004 08:43 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by fzzy
If you start feeling bad about what you have to do, just remember that it's not just you that's making sacrifices for your success, but your hubby and boys as well....You deserve to be treated fairly by her....but that doesn't always change how someone else is .... tell her she's got a chance to get back on track with the other projects you are doing together and if she doesn't then you won't be able to do anymore projects with her in future either. Sometimes being a truly good friend means letting the person know they have boundaries and if they don't work in them, then there are consequences. If she's willing to learn that lesson, it will be the very best lesson you can give her that should last a lifetime - and that's being a really GREAT friend. (((hugs)))


What fzzy said....

The sooner you confront it, the better.

good luck (((hugs)))

denny 03-18-2004 10:47 PM

Forget the friendship, it won't survive. Negotiating the next two projects ought to be a real doozy, however. Best of luck.

Lilith 03-18-2004 10:55 PM

So far so good.... I think maybe me coming down on her ass showed her that although I adore her personally she had best not cross me professionally. We have been able to talk as a group and turned the project in including her assignments. However we will be reviewing each other's contribution to the project and I am sure that will cause her grade to suffer.

denny 03-18-2004 11:10 PM

....or her to tighten up her efforts!


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