Manners are very important to my wife and me. When I first met her kids I was very impressed with their manners and I work hard to make sure my daughter uses good manners at all times.

I agree with WildIrish, I open the door everytime I go to class for several other students, the ones that just expect it or walk on by piss me off... When I do get a "thank you" I always say "no problem" or "absolutely" probably not what I should say... but what I have fallen into the habit of.

I dated a guy once that opened doors for me when my parents were around and that was all. Then I saw another guy that would run to the doors and open then for the pretty lady walking ahead of us, and follow her in and not hold it for me... talk about frustrating...

I hear you. Although I'm ashamed to admit that some of my manners have been slipping.
That being said, I've actually been yelled at for opening up a door. Back when I was in school, I opened the door for a young woman (my age) who proceeded to tear me a new one because "she was perfectly capable of open the door herself." I took the high road and didn't say anything, but all I wanted to say was that I could have closed the door on you, and what would you have thought of that? That and several words that I shouldn't be saying around impressionable youth.

Common courtesy, like common sense, isn’t very common anymore.

Amen! ^^^

I still use the word "sir." LMAO. I just started a new job, and the first time I said "Yes, sir" I got this puzzled look. I think the man thought I was mocking him! But I wasn't.

I hold the door for older people, and if I arrive first....I even hold it for a guy. SOmetimes it makes them uncomfortable, but I see that discomfort less and less nowadays.

I do, however, like being treated with the same respect.

The greatest mark of courtesy IMHO? Find something to compliment someone on -- their shirt, tie, jewelry, etc. And mean it. It's amazing how many people light up at the mere hint of a compliment. :)

Now that's courtesy.

Nice cans! :D

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And you, my dear, have very sexy hands. :x:

funny I hear he gets that a lot ;)

While most people I encounter are reasonably polite, I've definitely noticed things aren't like they used to be. I grew up saying "Yes, Mamm" and "Yes, Sir" but have noticed that many of the kids today ... don't. If they answer at all, it's "Yeah" or "Uh huh." I should be fair, though, many young people are courteous and many older folks are not. And if there has been the decline that I perceive, maybe it's more to do with the training the current adult population (my generation) gave them, then it is their fault. :(

One time, my wife and I had been grocery shopping and when we came out I opened the car door for her and a lady parked near us shouted out, "Do you give lessons?" I said, "I'm sorry, mamm, what?" She said, "My husband never opens the door for me." Made me feel good, but I felt sad for her. I've opened the door for my wife or for other ladies for as long as I can remember. I thought men were suppose to do that. :(

I also agree that the times we've traveled south, we see manners improve dramatically the further south we go. Hope ya'll can hang on to that ... ya' hear. Thank you. :)

The loss of civility seems to me to be related to the growth in the cult of “I”. Civil behavior, manners if you will, are by nature about how we relate to others. OldFart commented about those who are too self absorbed to care about others; I’d guess that they’ve never been taught to care.

Do you think self-righteous condescenscion is going to bridge, or widen this gap?

Did you ever wonder how my generation came to be self-absorbed? It's very easy to consider everything outside of your own personal space irrelevant when attempting to effect anything outside of that space gets you ignored, clubbed, or pilloried in the media.

But more on-topic, I leave doors open for those following soon behind me, help people if they drop things, and I say "thanks" when others do this for me. Doesn't matter how old they are or if they've got a dick or not.

I am a Georgia peach and with each passing year I have noticed that things are changing down here too for the worst. My kids almost automatically say yes sir yes maam and use a Mr or Miss handle. What I cant stand is the people who insist that my kids call them by their first name and get up set when they dont. I tell my kids to put an Auntie or Uncle in front to show some respect. In the mall one day this lady was shocked that my 4 year old asked her if she needed him to hold the door for her when she was with her husband who had walked ahead and let the door close on the stroller she was pushing. He actually gave my son the skunk eye for it.

osuche & Lilith, thank you very much. I never really thought of anything about me as sexy. It was really nice of you to say that.