Hey Steph,

Unfortunately I can't give you any useful advice, but I can give you lots of huggles :hug: :hug:

Good luck :)

LOL..Thx PF..Even though it means breaking up a set,looks like that's what I'll do.Won't be using that tool,or another one,for a while,lol..

I met a great guy today. I'm not one to hop from guy to guy but in this case, a normal guy might be a good cure.

In terms of getting over someone, I did allow myself to listen to mushy music (I sang "Missing You" by John Waite more than once walking the horse/moose/dog) & will do something cool & sassy & sexy with my hair & have been wearing my sandals with higher heels. He was three inches shorter than me and I know why Nicole Kidman made the cracks she did when her and Crazy Cruise broke up. :D

Thanks for your anecdotes & encouragement everyone (except PF)!

Honestly, the biggest problem was getting over the fact that he's not taking care of himself when he's got a serious disease but I did what I could.

To new beginnings! :cheers:

WTG Steph.... :cheers:

WTF Steph.... :whack:

ROFL I'm going to assume that's a typo! ;)

LOL @ PF

Well here are my :cents:

My first, the man all of you have heard me talk about hundreds of times, he was 99.99% wrong for me. Man did I hang on to that .01%. The only way I was able to "get over him" (which I wonder if I actually did), was to completely cut off conection with him. That worked till i really needed him agian. When I needed him again for moral support with something that happened that was absolutely horrible, he was there. After we talked for awhile I hung up and realized I would always need/want him in my life. I have to keep thinking about why we don't work together and focus on that. When you are with someone and you tell yourself, "It's ok for him to cheat on me as long as he comes home to me..." you are in a bad relationship. That is what I was saying to myself all the time. Being with him was priority being able to call him mine.

We some how have become pretty cool friends. He is really smart and I call him and ask for advice all the time. Sometimes I am lucky enough to meet up with him and he even drove to Columbus to see me once, something he said he would never do while we were "together."

I wasn't able to completely cut him off but I was able to become pretty cool friends with him. I really hope you can do the same. My personal advice would be take some time to get to know this new guy, make yourself happy, and then see if you can help the ex. He needs people right now as well, especially being diagnosed with this scary disease.

(((((Steph))))))

/me bites my tongue!!!

/me squeezes wooden stake and hammer enough to make finger grips

Steph...by doing what is necessary to keep yourself safe, physically, emotionally, spiritually, you will....fuck I can't explain what I'm trying to say.


By loving and respecting yourself, you demand it from anyone else who comes into your life. You set the standard. I'm soooo proud of you for raising the bar. I know caring about someone who is on a path of self destruction is intense and difficult to let go but you can't get drug down the path in an effort to drag them back. Only thing to do is to turn and walk. If they wanted to be saved, they'd follow. But that's not what they want. They just want company on their plunge and are selfish enough to not care who else gets drowned in the vortex.

((((((((((Kaelynn))))))))))

LOL The people who posted below you know he wasn't as nice as he could be to me.

My issue wasn't the turd he was (shaddup PF), my issue for the board was how to get over someone you know is wrong for you (even when he couldn't be more wrong than this guy was).

What is the phrase you use for him, PF? Dirtball? Something funny like that.

And Lil's right, too. I thought I respected myself but it became complicated because I was dealing with a guy with a fatal disease but he manipulates you because of the !@#% disease, too.

He doesn't want to talk about treatment but when you don't want to deal with his b.s. anymore, he'll cry about being "sick".

<sigh>

This one will have to be no communication, I'm afraid. In fact, for a drug-addicted, abusive guy like him, ignoring him is the best thing for him. Most importantly, it's the best thing for me.

amen.

Amen for friendship, sister friend!

I love how people were shaking their heads at me but still supported me (except PF who only cared about making sure the dog was fine :D :D).

awwww Group hug time everyone!!! :hug:

people do crazy things, best ya can do is support them though it ,cheers :cheers: