(((((dm)))))

(((((((((dm))))))))))

(((((((dm)))))))
I am deeply saddened to hear this. Prayers and thoughts of healing, strength, and comfort are on their way to you and your family.

((((Everyone))))

Thanks to every single one of you for your words and thoughts - a cliché, I know, but it really does help to know there are people rooting for him.

I visited my dad again this afternoon - the pain is being managed with very mild analgesics just now, as it isn't too bad. Unfortunately, the staff informed me (and him!) that as he is so weak, he won't be going home for some considerable while yet; a statement that has pissed him off no end, I can tell you!

He still has his sense of humour, thankfully, and is managing to flirt with the nurses a bit - a side of him I've never seen before, and not bad for 75!

Once again, hugs to all of you.

DM

((((DM)))) -- glad to know his pain is minimal, and I am so sorry he can't come home yet. :(

But I guess it's a good sign that he's harassing the nurses. :D

Will it EVER stop?
 

Hey folks;

Went to see dad yesterday, as per normal now. My sister and I (and mum too, natch) have been "nagging" my dad to get up and about a bit more, practice using a walking frame for when he can go home. Well.....

.... I go in, nurse calls me over.

"Mr. H...." she says, "just wanted to tell you, your dad's femur is so thin it's hanging on by a thread. He has to remain flat on his back in bed, until we can transfer him to the Beatson". (specialist Cancer unit)

It seems the docs had a better look at last week's CT scan, and found the tumour hasn't just metastasised into his liver, but deep into both femurs too. So after he's had the radiotherapy to reduce the part of the tumour pressing on his spine, they then have to decide if they can do an operation to hold his leg together!

He's still "putting on the face" though....... more power to him, I say!

DM

DM...it sounds as if your father must have been very strong to be so overtaken with cancer and pain. I hope he can spend what time he has left as stress and pain free as possible.

Oh (((((dm)))))...

Life just never seems fair when delt such a blow as the discovery of your father's illness...and then this latest discovery. One tends to wonder what we could have possibly done that was soooooo wrong to deserve such a pounding...one right after the other.

But, if you do believe in God and his almighty wisdom and power, you'll know in your heart that the wrath of God isn't inflicted on those who are down and out in response to our past doings. It's said that we are given only as much as we can handle. Least that's what believer's say. If it's true...your father must be of a powerful fortitude!

Cancer can be so mean and sneaky! If I had one wish at this moment...it'd be to smite all forms of cancer from the face of this earth forever! I know we all have to die eventually. I just wish we could all go gently.

Vibes of peace to your father and to his loving family!

(((((dm)))))

(((Lilith))) & (((Lixy)))

Lil ~ my dad is indeed a strong guy, in many ways; oft-times in the past this has caused great rifts between us - let's say, it wasn't just work that took me 300 miles away from home for 10 years! Luckily, we rebuilt the bond a few years ago, and it keeps getting stronger every day.

Lixy ~ You're totally right - life isn't fair! I came to that conclusion many years ago, and I know my dad feels the same way about things. I guess that's been proven by his attitude to the whole scenario - no ranting about "why me" or anything like that, just a calm and dignified acceptance of his situation, and a determination to get on with things.

Actually, it's my mum who's proved to be the biggest surprise in all of this - much tougher lady than I already knew her to be.............

(((Ladies)))

DM

My thoughts and prayers are with you daily...this is never far from my mind. "hugs"

Thank you sweetie....... much appreciated.

DM

((((DM)))) ~~ give your mom a hug for us, too. :)

osuche ~ gave my mum a hug which, she said after, felt like it was by "a few hundred of you"! Could hardly tell her it was the lovely people I know from a hard-core sex site though, unfortunately!!!

Went to see my dad on saturday with cards that some kids who dicksbro's wife looks after made for him.
BTW, a HUGE thankyou to db, and Mrs db, for being their amazing selves!
He was blown away by them, as you might imagine - I mean, how many people receive Get Well cards from kids thousands of miles away, who they've never met? Awesome!!

I'm afraid that the news isn't all good though - he got the results of the biopsy he had a week or so ago on saturday, and the liver tumour isn't connected to the lung tumours as they first thought; instead, they now think it's spread from his stomach, and it's only the long-bone thinness that is resulting from the lungs. This basically means that once his radiotherapy finishes on tuesday, he'll be transferred back to the first hospital for yet more tests.

Also, he has been suffering the ill-effects we knew would be coming due to the radiotherapy, and has had to be put back on IV fluids, as he was becoming dehydrated again. This led him to become a wee bit disorientated again, so much so that he thought one of the nurses was my ex-wife and argued with her big-time, culminating in him slapping her!! (Fortunately, no harm done - he's still a strong guy!!)

Right, better get back to some relaxing perving!

See ya around guys

DM

My heart aches for you so much!

DM darlin,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My only wish is that if this is "ment to be" then please make it quick and painless as possible for all you.

I know that might sound harsh but I would rather he remain strong for a short time then to watch him suffer for a long time. That is much harder on all involved.

We lost my uncle to cancer about 2 yrs ago. He had just left the doctors office and said on a high note "that he was doin good" not 10 min later my aunt is pulling the car over and my uncle was gone before EMS got there.

God will take us when he wants us...and the things we endure while on earth are those things that God has put in our life for some reason only he knows. Whether or not you beleive in him or pray every nite He is there when you need him. Lean on him, sometime he takes his time answering us but he does what is best for all concerned even though at times we might not agree.

And DM if you need a friend...lean on me. I am here for you!!!

Natalie