Let me add that a legal framework redefining marriage will be needed if poyamorous relationships are to be mainstream. I suspect that the revisions to the existing systems will also take many years.

AZ, my heart truly goes out to you, not just for losing someone you deeply loved, but also for not being able to express your grief and share in the comfort that could have been gained from others. It would seem that as far as society's thinking has come, we have so much further to go on an acceptance level. And that's not just to do with homosexuality or polyamory but in all areas. Whether it be a difference of race, religion, ethnic, "social class", size, physical attributes, intelligence, what you wear, where you live........the list of judgemental thinking can go on forever and get even more ridiculous. Even if others don't/can't understand or agree with another's life, at least they should just accept it. As long as the accepted life doesn't produce harm to innocent victims, just let them be, if nothing else.


*steps down from soapbox*

---kathy

HI All
I am in a monogamous relationship to my soul mate. When i met him i was married to an man that was emotionally mentally psychologically and finally physically abusive to me. I called him one labor day and said i am leaving cya. we have gone through infertility testing and in the end found out he wasn't man enough to jack off in a cup. Blamed me for it.
How do i know this well when i moved in with my soulmate we miscarried twice.. we went through testing together. he was a true man. We have been together it seems as long as i can remember but leagally have been married for 10 years. We have a beautiful adopted daughter from china..

So honestly poly or mono no relationship is perfect. You have to work at it every damn day

*gets off her own soapbox

Rhiannon

Amen.

And thank you.

That's really very much the point.