Careful there, OF!! Don't want you damaging anything vital!!
Just make a mark on the wall instead.......much safer, dear.:D

well you guys back to Timber wolf LOl

I think that the advice given here is all really relevant. Be yourself and relax was great advice, I wish that had been given to me at your age, I was way too uptight.

And the exchanges between the other members here are the sort of good natured friendly banter that makes Pixies so endearing to me :)

Good Luck TW there is someone out there for you Buddy

Before I got my S/O we spent our time talking about stuff. It was when neither of us was looking for anyone that it actually occurred to us that we wanted to be with each other. So my point is this : try to get to know a few people, dont push too hard, and especially dont judge based on looks alone - personality is more important than physical appearances.

You guys got it all wrong. I'm not looking for just a god looking girl. Hell, I'd settle for "Beaten with the ugly stick" if she had a good personality. What I meant by around here i my area. I'm in a suburb of LA. There are no clubs, no events, hell we barely have a mall. I'd o out somewhere else, except that I don't have a vehicle of my own, nor do I have a job. I've tried to get one, but no one wants to hire me. They always say, "We'll call you" when I call them, and every time after that. I'm just stuck here.

OK TW, I am a bit in unknown territory here because I dont know the social structure of your area.
Here I could direct you to quite a few youth organisations, including touch football (lots of mixed teams) indoor cricket, tennis, squash, swimming, athletics, basketball, archery, gym, in the sporting field.
Walking clubs, field naturalists, scouting, police citizens and youth club, YMCA, drama societies, young rotary, debating societies, dancing groups, skate board groups and that is just off the top of my head. If i looked them up in the phone book I could find heaps more and I live in a small city of 60,000 people.

So mate, you have to put in some effort and not sit on your bum and say 'There is nothing for me to do' I am sure that if you looked hard enough there will be clubs that you could be in that don't cost much money and that will take your interest and give you something useful to do with your time. Then you will mix and meet people and benefit from it.

Its tough being unemployed and morale sapping but keep trying and don't always take no for an answer. Keep ringing them back and dropping in. Someone will recognise your enthusiasm and determination and give you a chance.

I hope there are some ideas here for you

thx for the ideas, but they're for not. I've been all around this area, and there is nothing.

Wolf,

Just be normal, be socially aware, and wait for something to happen.

It'll be in exactly the direction you haven't been looking.

The hardest task of all is patience.

Hi Timberwolf...

Let me start off by saying welcome to Pixies' --- this is (as you're already discovering) a very supportive 'family' and we will do our best to help you out.

I do know all too well where you're coming from. I grew up in (and have just moved back to) a town of about 20 000 (well, it's more like 30 000 now, but still) where activities for youth were really limited. I also never met anyone I could date until I was 19 --- only the 'weirdos' asked me out, like the guy who threatened to commit suicide by jumping off the slide (oooh, a whole 5' drop) back in grade 4 if I didn't go to a movie with him. (I didn't go. :rolleyes: )

Anyway, all of the advice given so far has been absolutely spot on. I really like what Master1012 said about getting to know people --- not as potential dates, but as people. You never know. I met my boyfriend in the library at university, waiting in line to use the photocopier. I was 19 then, and we've been together 2 1/2 happy years now. He's not your typical sex idol --- he has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair much of the time --- and if I'd been looking only for a date, I probably would not have paid him any attention. However, I was just out to be friends, and that has developed into such a beautiful, loving relationship.

In terms of more tangible solutions, it sounds like the whole job situation isn't helping any --- both in terms of cash flow and in terms of morale. I'm an employment counsellor for students, and if there's anything I can do to help you polish your résumés/cover letters/interview skills/job search techniques, I'm happy to help. PM me if there's anything I can do. (Same goes for any other under-employed members of the Pixies' family, I might add.)

Good luck to you, hun.

--- sweetstuff