i'm going to have to say that its a sometimes thing...sometimes you want to know what you can do to get better, other times its satisfying just knowing they were well taken care of and happy about it.

I don't think of sex as always wanting to cum, there are lots of ways to be satisfied and sometimes i wouldn't cum but i'd still feel good about how it went. Anyone else ever feel like that?

I feel like that sometimes, Mytaru. Sometimes I don't cum but the intimacy level is really high. I enjoy getting him off sometimes and I don't mind if he's too overwhelmed to reciprocate. I've been with guys who think they've failed it I don't cum but I don't look at lovemaking as a pass/fail type of activity.

A women's perspective: We ladies have got it a little easier than you gents - usually. Things tend to be a little more obvious when we are doing things just right. Personally speaking, when I'm with a partner, all of my energy is put into pleasing him. I ask questions. I want to know what he likes, and how to get him off. So when it's my turn, I make sure he knows when he is doing something right. And if he's not, i'm not shy, I'll help.

I really like and want my partner to be satisfied every time we get together... whether it be sex, oral sex, phone sex, cyber... whatever. But if she doesn't cum and she is ok with it... I am too!

If she isn't ok with it... then its try try again and again and again...

I agree with most of the above posts. In my opinion, the better you give, the better you get. I love watching my partner enjoy herself...and always hope to get her over the top and keep her there long before I reach the peak myself...but as long as we both enjoy the experience, that's what counts.

i think that when you are in a relationship... its good to know so you can make it better each time :)

apart from that... sometimes great.. sometimes just good.


i quote from a movie called threesome.

"sex is like pizza, even when its bad... its still pretty good!"

and some times a little help from are electronic friends are needed.

I can tell when my girl is satisfied after sex, she has this euphoric look on her face, then she lets out a long, from the bottom of her stomach, sigh.

When she does that, I know I have done my part.