What do you mean ONLY? 19 kilos is a forking lot actually...specially if your the one carrying it!!!

The main reason ppl fail when they try to lose weight is because they try to lose it as quick as possible....slow and steady is a much more sensible approach...

Fad diets and such(quick results) usually end up with putting the weight back on plus extra...i know this from personal experience

My effort consists of a total lifestyle change...

changes happen
 

A long time ago, when my wife and I first met, before our son was even a thought, wayyyy before he grew up and went to college and moved out, and wayyyyyyyyy before I retired... well, we were at "x" pounds and in loving lust. Today we are at "x+" pounds and STILL in loving lust.

We keep active and try to eat properly (only 1 bottle of wine with a good pasta dinner, LOL). But ya know, those extra few pounds creep up anyway. And ya know what else? Our hormones still get fired up!

Just the other day we were out doing yard work and I looked over at her and thought, "Damn, am I one lucky guy!" NOT, repeat, NOT, something about wishing she would lose a few pounds.

Happy Trails!

i have been going to fitness center for about
two months now but delibratly ignoring scales
just geting my speed and time on the ski exersiser
and treadmill and increaseing the weights on the
weight machenes no idea what weight loss but
non of my pants fit with out a belt;)

I fell in love over the net with a friends cousin, i had never seen her before only talked to her and chated with her. We've now been going out for over a year and a half and i can say truthfully that i fell in love with her not for her looks but for her mind, she'd kill me if she read this but she is larger then some girls probably about average weight but she has a low self esteem and considers herself fat even though i'm probably more so, I would stick with her no matter what now, and i know she feels the same. So she's BBW(the big in her mind) intelligent with a great sense of humor.

"What do you mean ONLY? 19 kilos is a forking lot actually...specially if your the one carrying it!!!"

Perhaps I'm lucky but I've always been overweight and one year a few back decided to change that. It took me about 3 1/2 months to loose 35 pounds of fat and later put on weight in muscle. I was heavy for the majority of my life, I havent been since 3 1/2 months after deciding to loose weight. All it took was no bad food save maybe (only maybe) once a week and a distance run plus situps, pushups and weights 4-5 days a week.

"I cannot run, nor do situps or pushups, aerobics etc...and i have to be very careful doing weights...i imagine you do not have a back problem which limits your choice of exercise????"

Chronic back problems no. Knee problems yes. I smoke pot and take pain killers and pain goes bye-bye which allows me to run about 6 miles. My knee was severly injrued when I was 12. I was basically told to stop playing sports for 2 years.

"I also rarely eat "bad foods" as you call them......except as an occassional treat"

No problem.

"I admit i maybe just over-reacting to your comment....but it seemed a bit of a backhanded compliment to me ~"Congrats on losing the weight but dont ya think ya could or should do it faster"

It often surprises me when people say they lost 10 pounds in 3 months or anything like that because running and eating healthy have always seemed to do it for myself and those around me. Walking distances is also pretyt good and swimming is amazing.

Thats the thing isn't it....that is what worked for YOU and the ppl you know

I am not you or them!...i'm a totally different human being with different circumstances...

If you feel the need to take drugs to exercise that is your choice....

But i like to listen to my body...if it hurts stop...i have enough problems without making them worse through pain masking...such practices i believe eventually require more and more drugs to combat the pain.

I never said i didn't exercise at all.....walking is the main type of exercise for me
I do not swim due to there being only swimming pools where i live.....i much prefer the ocean

water arobics is very good if you have any back and leg
injurys used buy hospitals origanly
ps. dont forget the best work out ever is sex :D ;)

*LOL*

Gee, Hot topic here!
I consider my self fortunate, although I wish I was actually a little bit heavier. I am 5'7 and 140 lbs with my clothes on. I wear the same size now as I have since 16 yrs old. I eat anything that looks good at the moment. My wife on the other hand, says that she can gain weight just by looking at food. She refuses to tell me how much she weighs now, but she is 3X large in most of her clothes. She is only 5'. So anyway she considers her physical discription to be simply "short and Fat". She was about a size 14 when we were dating and even then her size bothered her. Now it just simply depresses her. She is constantly bitching about the fact that she is fat. I have never once complained about her weight, she does enough of that for both of us, yet she does very little about it. We may very well end up in a divorce due to her irratability more so than her actual weight. I would be happy with her staying the size that she is or a bit less for good health reasons (her doctors advice), if she would simply stop letting it upset her to the point that it is misserable to be around her.

Carl...

What a great post.. I think that you addressed a very important issue in all of this..

When someone is miserable about themselves (whether that be a weight related issue or some other self esteem defecit) it is sometimes almost impossible to get them to understand that you love them. It is frustrating to live that way... I am sorry that your wife has pushed you away.. and the others that love her as well. I do understand tho.. it isn't right.. or healthy for her to do so.. but it is logical.

When someone has such a poor self image that they don't love themselves.. it becomes hard not only to identify if someone loves them.. but even harder for them to understand why that is the case.

I hope that things work out.. I know it is frustrating.. and very painful to sit back and watch the one you love self distruct.. help her love herself... that is all you can attempt to do.

For those who wondered.. I have lost about 20 lbs so far.. tho I don't really see it within myself yet.. and I have a long way to go until I reach my goal. It is indeed a lifestyle change.. and then some for me. I am going to the gym regularly and am also on some meds to assist me in this.. not to mention a big change in my diet :)

"But i like to listen to my body...if it hurts stop...i have enough problems without making them worse through pain masking...such practices i believe eventually require more and more drugs to combat the pain"

That's true. It is rather stupid to play through the pain. However, it's been my motto since I was a little kid and it was necessary to compete at high levels of sports through high school. If you want to be a good athlete, there simply is no alternative. Concussions, muscle problems, spasms, fatigue, and anything else you just keep playing. Players on my team would go to a doctor and take off about 30% of however long he said we should wait before playing again. If he told is it would be 1 month, we'd come back in 2 and a half weeks. That was only in hockey though. My football teammates and basketball teammates we're much more into sticking to the doctors orders.


"I never said i didn't exercise at all.....walking is the main type of exercise for me
I do not swim due to there being only swimming pools where i live.....i much prefer the ocean"

Walkign is good. Swimming and running are better, but walking is quite good.


"not to mention a big change in my diet"

Interestingly enough when I was around 15 (14? 16? Who knows) I gave up Coke completely and lost something like 5 pounds in two weeks. That stuff was killer.

I don't drink full Coca Cola...never have.....i drink all diet drinks(mainly Diet Coke) and these are acceptable on my weight loss program

Sharni - Johson, before you two talk each other into oblivion lets just rest this cause there is a simple fact...Sharni you are just gorgeous so enough said...you can only look better and better cause right now you are fabulous and I dont care what you eat or drink...