Ok if your kidding yourself that cybersex isnt cheating, then maybe you should ask your S/O to go online and cyber with someone, see how that makes you feel. And if it makes you feel nothing, then you shouldnt have that S/O.

Ok, 1st off, some of us don't do the jealousy thing...whatever it takes for my S/O to get fired up (within reason, & I can be VERY reasonable) is ok with me, as long as I get the benfits of it. And 2nd, some folks here still love & care deeply about their S/O, but have a sex drive mismatch problem...are they to throw away a great long-term relationship for sex, or suffer quietly & stay? Life gets too complicated for quicky B/W answers sometimes...

its apparent if you love your S/O then you should feel bad, to do anything unfaithful. And if your mismatched in sex, then someone is doing something wrong, someones holding back. Is sex an important thing in a relationship (yes), but if you love your mate, then maybe you should follow Dr. Ruth's advice. SPICE IT UP! Your only hurting yourself in the long run. Why not go out and screw things up with the real thing, instead of your hand, if your going to cheat, and maybe get eventually caught, then do it for something worth it. Cyber is just hype. Doesnt do anything for me, I got a man that can take care of me 3 maybe 4 times a day, and then some. We only stop for much needed rest, and then our engines are up and running again. Sex isnt only for the bedroom. >>>>>Just a Little friendly Advice<<<<<<<<<< cheating is for losers.

Wow winter! I'm glad you have all the answers but sometimes it isn't all as simple as you make it.

Don't be quick to judge until you've been in other peoples shoes, please.

Mismatched mates DO happen and often partners stay together for many reasons and the sex isn't necessarily one of them. I think it's up to each individual and/or couple to decide what is cheating for THEM......I would never presume to know what another couple can and can't do in their marriage or their lives. That is THEIR business, and it isn't for ME to try to make them feel guilty.


It's great that you have all your needs met. That's always a good thing. :)

Well, well, aren't you just the lucky one!!

Goody for you...you can get it 3 or 4 times a day! Congratulations!!

Excuse me while I get graphic here....
I happen to be married to a man who suffers from erectile dysfunction. He CAN'T perform. I understand and know this is not his fault. BUT...then he also is unwilling, for reasons known only to him, to satisfy me in any other way. I think that he thinks he's doing what's best by "not starting what he can't finish" and thinks I wouldn't be satisfied any other way. BUT...be that as it may...
Am I supposed to simply do without for the rest of my life?? I have already done without for 12 years!! I think it's unrealistic and totally unfair to expect someone in my situation to live like this forever!!
Grow up, honey...things aren't always as simple as you think!!

SS: You said it girl! I love my DW dearly, but there are things no one need know about that make it neessary for me to look elsewhere. It would hurt her terribly if she knew, so she doesn't.

And Summer, or anybody else, before you judge me, My DW is getting what she wants, when she wants it, and so am I. We're both happy and that, I think, is the important thing.

What this whole thing(all of the replys)shows;is that everyone has a different opinion!If everyone is happy with what they are
doing and not hurting another;that's what counts!I agree that people;do have;different sex drives.Not being constantly satisfied
;by your mate;doesn't mean that your mate doesn't satisfy you.
There are 24hrs. in a day;and they can't be with you all of them.
Irish
P.S.Don't give me that old self disipline story.Not everyone is a
priest.Besides;everyone doesn't like little boys.(Couldn't resist
that.)

Wrong season Murphy!!!!!!:D:D:p

OOPS! Thanks Lilith! I get writing so fast I forget to check my sources....

Many apologies to Summer, wherever she may be...

Ahhh... cyber... I wish I got it more, cyber or otherwise!

Different people have different sex drives, and it's perfectly normal and appropriate to masturbate if your partner does not have the same sex drive as you.

Whether you have to resort to a magazine or video, or you can find a wonderful person to chat away your sexual frustration with, it is pretty much the same.

The jealousy thing is something completely different! It's just a matter of finding a good, and interesting release. Most people only have one computer, so it's more than likely that the one who works less will have the bigger appetite, and therefore would need a couple of snacks during the day...am I still making sense?

Murphy---It's Summer,Fall,Winter,Spring.GOT THAT? Irish
P.S.Daylight savings time doesn't count!

Giving this some thought. Seems there is a lot of ways this can go.

What if you chat with someone and masturbate, but don't tell them, or your S/O? OR, just a "one-nighter"... i.e. one or both of you masturbate, but never hope to see each other or meet online again?

What about solo masturbation? (Is that redundent?) Does it take two (or more) to be "unfaithful" according to the definition supplied by LixnLix69?

Thank you Murphy for the apology hehe! :D
-Summer :)

Irish,
Sorry mate have to differ about the seasons
Its Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. Dunno where fall came from its a North American term only I think.

grumbleguts---They must not have had the Howdy Doody show in
Australia!They always said:Summer,Fall,Winter,Spring.Just ask the
Princess.I have to admit that Australia makes good actors tho.My
favorite male actors are Mel Gibson and Russel Crowe! Irish
P.S.Now if I only could figure out;how to make Val Kilmer Australian.

The term for that time between summer and winter we call fall, is normally called fall in more temperate to cold climates because thats when all the leaves "fall" off the trees.

I live in a temperate climate 42 degees south latitude comaparble to Boston. Fall is in common use mainly in the US, the rest of the world calls this season Autumn

from the Macquarie Dictionary: see #43

autumn
/'awtuhm/ noun
1. the season of the year between summer and winter;( in the Southern Hemisphere, usually understood to include March, April and May.)
2. a period of maturity passing into decline. [L autumnus; replacing ME autompne, from OF]

fall
/fawl/ verb (fell , fallen , falling ) --verb (i)
1. to descend from a higher to a lower place or position through loss or lack of support; drop.
2. to come down suddenly from a standing or erect position: to fall on one's knees.
3. to become less or lower: the temperature fell ten degrees.
4. to hang down; extend downwards: her hair falls to her waist.
5. to be cast down, as the eyes.
6. to succumb to temptation.
7. to lose high position, dignity, character, etc.
8. to succumb to attack: the city fell to the enemy.
9. to be overthrown, as a government.
10. to drop down wounded or dead; be slain: to fall in battle.
11. to come as if by dropping, as stillness, night, etc.
12. to come by lot or chance: their choice fell upon him.
13. to come by chance into a particular position: to fall among thieves.
14. to come to pass; occur; happen: Christmas falls on a Monday this year.
15. to have proper place: the accent falls on the first syllable.
16. come by right: the inheritance fell to the only surviving relative.
17. (of speech, etc.) to issue or proceed: the words that fall from his lips.
18. to lose animation, as the face.
19. to slope, as land.
20. to be directed, as light, sight, etc., on something.
21. to come down in fragments, as a building. --verb (copular)
22. to pass into some condition or relation: to fall asleep, in love, into ruin.
23. to become: to fall sick, pregnant, vacant, due. --verb (t)
24. to fell (trees, etc.) --noun
25. the act of falling, or dropping from a higher to a lower place or position; descent, as of rain, snow, etc.
26. the quantity that descends.
27. a becoming less; a lowering; a sinking to a lower level.
28. the distance through which anything falls.
29. (usually plural) a cataract or waterfall.
30. downward slope or declivity. 31. a falling from an erect position, as to the ground: to have a bad fall. 32. a hanging down. 33. a succumbing to temptation; lapse into sin. 34. surrender or capture, as of a city. 35. proper place: the fall of an accent on a syllable. 36. Wrestling a. the fact or a method of being thrown on one's back by an opponent and held down with both shoulders on the canvas for a specific period of time, usually a count of three; a pinfall. b. a bout, or one of the best of three victories which go to make up a bout: to try a fall. 37. a loosely hanging veil, or the like. 38. a woman's hairpiece with long, loose hair. 39. a piece of leather at the end of a whiplash to which the cracker is attached. 40. Machinery the part of the rope of a tackle to which the power is applied in hoisting. 41. (plural) Nautical the apparatus used in lowering or hoisting a ship's boat. 42. Hunting-->deadfall. 43. Chiefly US autumn. 44. a stand of trees suitable for felling.
--phrase 45. fall about , Colloquial to laugh immoderately.

Oh Irish....just pack him up and send him on over....i promise to look after him Real good ;):p:D

Don't know why I am doing this but I always play the "Devil's Advocate" in a debate.............

*Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall.............. All ya got to do is call............ And I'll be there.......yes I will.......You've got a friend!!!!!!!*

Can we really disagree with James Taylor?????????????

What was the subject anyway????????

Mrs. Lix

James Taylor is my GOD!!!!!:D:D:p.....best concert! damn good!!!!

James Taylor or not, the correct name of the season is Autumn, Fall is just a nickname

Autumn is our name for it,not theirs. Just as an American pint is 16oz

and the Imperial pint is 20oz.

Names can make a difference.

Does it really matter if someone calls it Fall or Autumn? It's not important enough to get upset about is it? It's the same season no matter what anyone calls it. It's as silly as arguing whether the tool is correctly called a "wrench" or a "spanner", or is the vehicle a "truck" or a "lorry", "torch" or "flashlight", "elevator" or "lift", it's just a different word for the same thing.

Can we all play nice now????:D ;)

i've said it before and i'll say it again....NOBODY is taking a a piss in my bathroom :D

he he
 

Hey, I am not getting upset, just having some flippant chatter.
This is fun for me and totally amicable for my part. Sorry if anyone got the idea this is deadly serious, you will know if I get mad, steam comes out of my ears LOL.

we dont need to fall out over this LMAO!!!! :D

And thus another thread gets hijacked somehow... ;)

<<<<<<<<<< is asking $85679843760968759876 in ransom:D:D:p

wasnt this thing about cybersex???

Dammit i want sex back....sex!,sex!,sex!

I've so tried to keep clear of this thread cause of all the heated emotion it brings out.....so when does getting hot 'n' horny over email become cybersex?

I reckon I wouldn't have a problem with my bloke doing this, as long as I know that it is going on, the male or female in question is on the other side of the planet ...erm.....let me think, oh yes! and I get to join in occasionally :p

Mind, I have still to put this to the test! :)

back to cybersex
 

Bugger it, I though I had successfully hijacked this thread and Miss X stuffs it up LOL

OK Miss X what would MrX think if I had cybersex with you???

mmmmmmm that is a pleasant but naughty idea mmmmmm

Would love to hear his feedback.

To me, cybersex isn't really cheating in the common sense of the word. It can be, but it doesn't have to be. It really is masturbation, with the exception that it takes another person. It can all be a lie, a fantasy, no different than a picture online.
I can be cheating, however, if your relationship with your online lover becomes more impotant or more fufilling than real life.
I guess what I want to say that cybering can easily be an innocent activity--but it can also easily be infidelity.

Re: back to cybersex
 

Grumble - Well I was going to ask where the phrase "Spring forward, Fall back" came from, you know, the one used for putting your clock forward or back.....but thought that would be encouraging you too much :)

Cybersex? well MrX would have to okay it first cause we hold with the "as long as the other person knows and is okay with it" rule. :D

I;just;got back;from masturbating;to Sugarsprinkles new avatar(sp)I hope that wasn't cheating! Irish
P.S.Before everyone goes crazy;I was just kidding.

Er, back to Sweet Baby James - he is correct!!! He rules, he's sexy, funny, great voice and, once again, I digress!

I just had a couple of invitations to cyber this weekend but passed because I'm in a happy relationship. I might participate in cybering again if we break up. Therefore, I must consider it cheating. Sorta. The last relationship I was in, I considered sexually unfulfilling so I cybered. The guy I'm with now would probably cyber with me and another person. OMG, I've confused myself!

Good to know I'm flexible in my thinking! LOL

Thanks, Grumble!

I'd been looking for the source of #22 for a couple of decades!

Pete Barnett.

I'm glad this thread was revived. I agree completely with this quote.

I'm more inclined to agree with Lixy.


















:p

And I'll still go up the down staircase.

I agree with Flute Lady and therefore Clint. Love is all in the mind and what is cyber but all in the mind? It is a two way interaction. Unlike stories or picks one feeds off the other....

cyber sex is literally a safe way to relieve sexual tension when his/her partner is not present and it is just a fantasy. Many maintain that they would never carry out the imaginative stories they concoct online. Plus, they claim, that cyber sex can benefit the non-participating partner too, wherein they sometimes become so aroused from the cyber sex that their real-life partner receives the heavenly fruit of their labor.

I say it all depends on the motives. if it's in fun or nonserious then NO