yep i understand that Scotz....and that is why they think he has it...but i am unsure as it is not a consistant thing

He has been an emotional child since his brother was born...before that he was a completely 'normal kid' no emotions....if he was Aspergers he would have had it since birth is my point...I know about sibling rivalry...but man its a full on war here *L*

I've told them the pediatrician believe him to have some symptoms of Aspergers..but not enough to actually diagnose him with it....and most people including myself would be the same.

(((((Alasse)))))

I don't have kids and maybe I am WAY off base here....but.....from your comments about the bullying, the stealing, skipping class, and issues with his brother...

Is it possible your son has severe self-confidence and self esteem issues? People with good self esteem can better handle sibling rivalry, bullying, etc.

Maybe there's something you and Bilbo can do to build up his esteem, or maybe have him go to couseling for it? Maybe a hobby? Something he can "own"?

I know this may be too simplistic...but it sounds a bit to me like he need to find a purpose and pride in his life.

typically autism/Asperger's and the like show up at 1.5 - 3 years old

After the meeting with the school today....very productive i must say...finally

J my eldest will be assessed by professionals at the school itself to get some idea of his processing skills and stuff

They are going to alter his timetable...he will get be going on work experience trips a couple of times a week to give him a break from the school enviroment

Bilbo and myself are also going to look into a psychologist to see if he/she can give any insight...plus some other changes will happen in our household itself

You're very right osuche....he has major self esteem/confidence issues

Simple can be better at times...anyway hopefully these and a few other things will hopefully make J's life and our easier

Awesome. I'm glad you feel like you are working towards a positive resolution.

Congrats on developing a plan, and finding some support at the school. I wish you and J the best. :)

Great to hear...sometimes just a little battle won makes it easier to go on with the never-ending war ;)