Perhaps we may have to ask Lil if she can split the thread between "a time and a place for cheating" and "a time and a place for aggression".

Some of the posts here were lodged as examples, and as such are open to debate as to how they relate to cheating, not as stand-alone points. If they were meant for open debate they'd have been set up as a new thread.

The intention of the forum is to be supportive and experimentational, not adversarial.

Just my 2cents (post tax).

What he said. Grow up!

I think this is the line that people are mostly objecting to.

How would you like it if we suggested that your wife might be getting it someplace else for whatever reason (I dunno, say she'd like to have sex with someone less aggressive and more sensitive for a change)?

Yes, I'm being deliberately provocative, to make the point that no-one likes a virtual stranger to start handing down their (unsolicited) opinions on their relationships, based on a set of values not necessarily the same as their own.

Also, to do so with a post natal woman is just asking for trouble. Had it occurred to you that their MIGHT be something more serious going on here? Like, say, post-natal depression (although to be honest, in this case I doubt it) and that you sticking your oar in could actually contribute to making an unhappy situation worse?

Yes everyone's entitled to freedom of speech but if someone were standing on the edge of a cliff considering jumping, it might not be socially responsible to go over and suggest their partner is cheating on them. My point is, that you have NO IDEA what's really going on in people's lives here at Pixies so it's best to tread VERY carefully.

Anyone, who's been on Pixies for a while knows I'm not talking out of my arse here, and that things like this DO and HAVE happened, so if we older members seem to be jumping down your throat and being over-protective of someone whom we feel might be emotionally vulnerable THERE'S your reason.

*gets off my soap box and walks away from this thread, hopefully for the last time*

Thankyou very much Lilith!!!

That is exactly right!!

Just get ovr it Jude what has been said has been said.

I cannot believe that you said:

But if he's not pestering you about it he's either asexual or getting it someplace else.

I was not going to write any more to this thread mainly because of you and I was going to go my own way and ransac the other topics here on Pixies but this comment has completely over stepped what you previously said..
So basically your saying that my partner is either asexual or cheating because we are not having sex???
Alot of people may not want to know this and I didn't really want to write but you have left me no choice. For the 1st 10 months it was because I was pregnant now seeing your a male you could never ever understand what it's like being pregnant all the aches and pains that come along with it.
Considering my partner has a rather large dick thing on a normal day are already very tight down there!!
Now on top of that, you add swelling, the pain because you strecthing, there is a womb there so that alreay makes the the amount of room in there half!!!

Now you have really offended my by saying what you said.

I appreciated the helpful suggestion.

I sincerely appologise for saying that. Honestly I do, that was uncalled for.

It does not change the fact however that if a couple wants to have sex they will find a way.

You can have sex while pregnant most of the time. My wife and I weren't able to. We were one of the tiny percentage of people who couldn't. But there are other things you can do besides normal penis into a vagina as far as sex goes.

Lilith you didn't have to remove Mark's post on the second page, my response looks sorta silly without his to bounce it off of.

He was being rude and name calling. It was not called for. Plus I fucked up when I split the thread at 5 freakin' am. Could you people please fuss with eachother when I'm wide awake :D

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But....We're scared of you!














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Um yeah.

Sorry to me that's just making excuses.

The shower is unacceptable for some reason? You can't put a lock on the sons door? You don't have friends that will take the kids for a few hours in the afternoon on the weekends? If a couple wants to have sex they will find a way to do it.

I suspect it's something more than that.


I have already responded to this quote.

And I was right it was something else. I'm sorry that you're unwilling to admit it, but if he's not willing to marry you, and hasn't had sex with you in well over a year...