Are you ready for my two cent's worth.......................................

I think men , in general, need to respect women's sexuality.
Here a Pixies this is not a problem, but in the "real" world.......

You could be a little more sensitive. Most women who are dating,
I'm friendly with quite a few, tell me it's hard to find a man who
takes them seriously, and is not just looking for sex. If you are
a man who truly respects women's sexuality then you have to give them a chance to see that.

They are not have having sex with men, not because they are
intimidated by male sexuality, ( if they were, would they really be
in the dating scene?) but because they are getting the impression
they their sexuality isn't being valued and respected. They are
not getting the impression that their "personhood" is being valued and respected.

If you want woman a to have a sexual realationship with you then
you have to be sensitive to her feelings, and respect what she
has to say, and treat her like a person.

I get the impression from your post that you think women are
intimidated by male sexuality because they won't have sex with
you. Most women want intimacy. Maybe they want the intimacy
before they move on to sex. There is a difference in the two you know !!!!!!

I also think that many women are just tired of putting themselves
out there and being disrespected. If women "diss" men, maybe
it's because women have been "dissed" by men and have felt
helpless to do anything about it, and they don't anymore !

Hope this doesn't sound too harsh........................

I also agree with lixnlix69 that your comment about the jumbo jets flying into buildings is very inappropriate.

throwing my handsin the air!!!!

Amother problem is that many men are kind ,sensitive and caring
at the outset of a realationship, but as soon as they have sex
with a woman, the realationship changes.

Also most women are a little wary that "niceguys" are just acting
that way to get them into the bedroom.

How long have you dated a woman before deciding she was
"intimidated by your sexuality". You have to give them the time to realize that you are sincere, that may take a while.

You also give youself a chance to find out if the one your with
is really what she says she is.

It's really unfortunate that we have to play these games, that we
just can't depend on people being nice, but yourselves the chance
to get to know each other a little bit, BEFORE having sex, may
save both of you major hang-ups later on !!!!!!!!

love before sex (for me at least). Since I am not focused on sexual contact during meeetings or dates with women. I believe this allows me to find out better who they are. Sex is not the end all of a relationship contrary to popular belief.

Of course then maybe Im a hypocrite because I sometimes fantasize about those women after the fact.

This is the gist of what's been bothering me about women today. If the guy forgets an important date, if he doesn't say 'Hello' back one day, if he shows a foul mood one day because he's feeling stressed out and things are not going well at the moment, the woman starts believing she's being "snookered" and "tricked". Just because he's not the perfect Mr. Charming she thought he was when she first met him, when he worked doubly hard to win her affection, she now thinks he has just revealed himself as scum. Well, that's why they call it "work"...people in their natural state want to just let things go at their own speed. Tell me, when was the last time you felt too lazy to do something? If you felt that something could wait for another day but get yelled at by someone you know for it, how would YOU feel?

THIS IS THE BLACK-AND-WHITE ATTITUDE I'VE BEEN TRYING TO POINT OUT!!

Newsflash: People are not perfect!!!!! Granted, some are less perfect than others. However, it can be said that we have our good days and our bad days. I am sensitive of that. It's just that I'm sick of the double-standard that says that guys like me have to do everything in our power to keep a relationship going but if I ask the woman to do a little more for me I'm being labelled as "overbearing". What a crock!!


You want to complain about how guys just want the sex? I believe there are women who couldn't care less if they have sex with men or not, except as a means of luring the guy into a relationship and then just give all the excuses in the world to just stop but enjoy the other 'benefits' of said relationship. There are more of you like that than you would EVER admit to. :mad: :rolleyes:


To many women, an erect penis is VERY intimidating!!! How else to explain the double-standards and the excuse-making they like to employ.