Tender Touching
 

I'm wondering. When you're having quiet time with the SO and things are laid back. Watching TV or reading. Do many of you venture tender touches without intent? What I mean is if there's touching does it have to be intended as a sexual thing? I know guys who say if she gets it up she's gotta get it back down. Personally I enjoy a little play even when it isn't leading to full blown sex. What has the our panel of experts to say?

definately! his touch can relax me and i know mine does the same for him.

I love to lay in someone's arms, I love fingernails raking, my hair played with. It doesn't matter if we have sex or not... I know I love to be touched...

I usually will do things to him as little signals and clues that I want them done to me.

*SIGH* What is that??????

I've been told before...."I'm not a damn dog......I don't need pettin" :rolleyes2
Whateverrrrrrrrrrrr

I don't think I could sit next to him and not be touching him in some way. Hell I touch him in the car. Not necessarily in a sexual way just in a loving, caring way.

*Damn Miles*

A touch says much more than "I want sex"... a simple comfort... or a silent reminder that one is there for the other... *sigh*

.......i know what you mean......:(

How can you live without touching....it's so amazing...from the gentle stroke of my fingertips across his arm as we watch TV, to rubbing my kids' backs when they sit beside me...I need to touch.

when Mayhem and i were planning my trip over to him, the single most thing that we were looking forwards to was to actually touch one another. (yeah we were looking forwards to the sex as well) Then we said that we just turn and poke each other just to be sure that i was really here next to him, but that jab with a finger has become a soft stroke of the back of my hand across his cheek.

i touch him as often as i can, whilst still giving him "some" free space. i want to memorize every inch of him for when i must be away from him and back to the states. i love soft gentle kisses, and i kiss him often, even if it doesn't lead to sex, i still feel satisfied.

I love to give him massages, whether a quick shoulder rub, or a full massage with oil all over his back and legs. it is the satisfaction of knowing that i can calm and soothe with my hands and fingertips that is my reward (although i do admit i like a massage too once in a while)

when we go out shopping or walking around, i love holding his hand. It is reassuring to me as well as another reason to touch him. *SIGH*

Seriously, we need a mushball alert emoticon! :D

Not that I advertise it but I'm secretly touchy feely. I love gently massaging him to help him sleep, I stroke his neck when he's driving & gently grab his thigh when we're watching TV.

But I'm not mushy, I swear! :p

i looked and looked for ya Steph and this is the best i can find, lmao

^^^^^^ LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!^^^^^^^^

Where did you find that Lizz? Must be a smiley that just stumbled out of an English pub!!! :D

I need tender touches. I love the feel of skin, of hair. I love just touching. And to me, being touched is akin to being loved.

Oh and yeah....... i'm a touchy feely person too........ but you didn't hear that from me..... after all, I have a reputation to keep!

ROFL I vote we implement it! But then PF would use it after every one of my posts so it could backfire.

On a related note, I was downtown yesterday and an old bum was loudly puking while a bunch of us were waiting for the light to change.
:faint:

I would like to stress that it's not only in my 'hood that disgusting things happen! :D

(Sorry for the thread hijack, BigBear :D :D)

Steph you're welcome to hijack anything of mine anytime. ;-)

[Mae West]Well BigBear, why don't you come up and see me sometime? ;)[/Mae West]

I'd love to Hon, if I get back up that way I'll be sure and let you know. It'd be a treat to meet You. :slurp:

I love to touch him and to be touched by him. If it leads to sex, that's great! But it fills an emotional void to simply touch and be touched just because we love each other, with no expectations other than simply being close and staying connected in that way.

This is just a perfect description...now to find someone to touch is the next hurdle :lurv:

sooo sweet

A sociology prof told us about adopting babies from other countries. He and his wife found that the orphanages in eastern European countries were very understaffed. This meant that the babies didn’t get very much human touching. From what he knew about how we function he knew that babies that didn’t get touch during their infancy didn’t grow up to be well-adjusted. They opted to adopt from China where the babies get closer attention.

Being touched is a basic need. Not having someone to exchange touch with is one of the hard parts of being unattached.

Savoring those little finger-tip contacts is precious. When I think back on relationships I try to keep the memories of touches that were shared. No matter how the relationship developed there were always some nice touches.


Tom

The wife and I have been married 30 + yrs and the touchy feely is a big part of our daily lives. Watching tv or just relaxing in bed before going to sleep,stroking her hair,caressing her back or the curve of her hip,caressing her cheek and the look in her eyes holding each other till we fall asleep. It does"nt get any better than that unless it leads to a little more.When we are seperated for any length of time that touch or feel is what is missed the most.

"MELT"

We hold hands at church; we touch whenever we're close enough. Probably most of the time these touches are not really sexual, just loving.

I love how my wife feels and so touching her tenderly seems like such a natural thing to do. Even what might be called "sexual touching" like on the breast or bottom, doesn't always mean "bedrooms." Only a touch of intimacy shared.

I touch everyone....I am a very huggy/touchy person....at least, I am if I like you. ;)

So....no surprise to know that Mr Osuche and I cuddle a lot...on weekends we have regular cuddle sessions. Sometimes we sleep, other times we talk....but mostly we just cuddle.

That is the one thing that I miss not having a SO.

I used to lay on his lap laying in between his legs and could sleep there just knowing he was there. He would be brushing my hair with his hands and he would be watching TV. I have never felt so relaxed.

i'm the toucjy feely type. but my hubby is not. i would like to just sit around for hours and touch and be touched. but hubby doesnt "do" the touch "thing." Me i touch him as much as i can get away with especially when he is asleep. i have to play with his hair at least a little bit. and i get a lot of hugs in whenever i can.

*Sigh* wish i could get some feels copped on me. LOL

**bump**

I'm a big cuddler. Always have been. Half the time I don't care if Bama and I have sex. So long as I get to hold her while she's with me I'm fine. So far the only thing I'm not fond of is while I'm driving and it's really hot, she wraps her arm in mine and is holding my wrist. It makes that one section of arm get really sweaty and uncomfortable. Then apologizes which makes me feel bad because now she feels like she didn't something wrong, but that's another problem. Other than that. I like holding hands and having my arm around her waist. Makes me feel fuzzy inside.

Pre ego and post ego awareness is the pivotal point for me. I once felt it a compulsory action to have to go to ejaculation whenever I had a hardon. Now, I consider it a compulsory action to get a hardon so I'll know I can still get one. :rofl:
Of course if she or he gets my Mr up the bonus if in his/her hands!!

yeah well..... hot weather and hotblooded woman..... >shrug< personally if he only touched me to poke me and say "hey lets fuck" I'd be ok with that

Yeah, but there's a lot more to me than that.

Well for me laying in his arms and just playing with his head or his hairs on his chest relaxes me....I love it when he just holds me, gives little kisses on my forehead or neck....yes sometimes leads to other things and thats alright to. Just every once in a while would love to spend the night doing the little things that tend to get lost.

This has always been a major source of tension and frustration between the SO and I. I love touch, sexual or not. In fact, many times the touch is more important than the sex.

She, on the other hand, thinks that everytime I touch her, I am wanting sex. I cannot bridge the difference, no matter how hard I try.

Is it that she wants to have sex as well? Or is it that she's expecting you to want sex?

I hear you on that one. Hell I can't even roll over in bed without her thinking I want sex. There are times when I just want to cuddle and hold her or be held. But she seems to think I want more. It would be nice to just be able to cuddle and if sex results from that at some point then great, but is not what I always want.

I agree, and would add that not having someone to exchange touch with is harder when you're attached, as I unfortunately have first-hand knowledge of :( I'm out of that relationship now thankfully, but the lack of affection that is so important in a relationship stays with me.

To answer BigBear's original post, yes, I have in past relationships loved the closeness, the tenderness of cuddling up close to someone and just being. Hands idly roaming, exploring each others bodies just to enjoy each other's touch, not necessarily to go on to full blown sex.

Replied to this once back in 2005 ... and the answer is still the same. I love to touch and be touched. Nothing feels better. And, sex is not always the wish ... probably not even the most common wish. Went to a movie yesterday evening and she leaned her head on my shoulder. It was like heaven. :)

^^^^ That, and jay-t's post earlier on, nearly had me in happy tears :boohoo: :lurv:

One day I hope to be as lucky and find a real soulmate like some of you on this thread have :nod: Lovely of you to share, thank you, it reminds me there are some good ones out there :love: