"The Lifestyle"
 

If you have a moment....

Have any of you had positive experiences with "The Lifestyle" or Swinging activities? or

Has it been a bit tricky with your relationship?

I'm curious as I've done a fair amount of research into the subject but wanted to pick the brains of some of you kind folks here at PP..

Any input would be appreciated (haven't we all heard that before!)


Thanks,

I researched the hell out of it and read a very good book called The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers by Terry Gould. I highly recommend it.

I've never been able to convince my wife to give it a try however. Arg!

If I may ask, what are her reservations? (after you've done all the research and all) If you feel comfortable sharing, it would be appreciated!

There are a couple of Yahoo groups you may want to look at, MikeR89, on polyamory and swinging.

MikeR89
My wife just isn't of the same sexual mind as I am. We are two very different people sexually. I am very exploratory, the type that would try anything once. She has only been with one man. She says that she doesn't fantasize, and has no inclination what-so-ever of ever being with another person. I read the book to try to get ideas of why others do it. I did get her to read the book, but she still said not interested. Damn, damn, damn.

ok i know what swinging is but what is "the Lifestyle"?

~nikki~

"the Lifestyle" is what we lifestylers call swinging.

Myself and my hubby are lifestylers. We have actually found that having mutual sexual experiences with other individuals and couples has made us appreciate each other even more than we did before. We (at least I) have learned a few new things too from these experiences.

So long as both you and your mate understand that if you are going to be involved in the lifestyle you should already be having a fulfilling relationship with each other.


Something else that is important is to take the time to get to actually know the folks you are interested in playing with and make sure that everyone is comfortable. We have met people that we had a great time hanging out with, but weren't interested in having sexual encounters with and folks we would love to play with that we didn't particularly want to hang around with.

A good website to check out is www.lifestylelounge.com

oh cool
ive been intrested in swinging butnever tried it, hubby says sure whatever, but doesnt seem to impressed that i want to so im not guessin ill ever have a chance :(

~nikki~

Well try to find out what his objections/reservations to becoming involved with other couples are. He might be afraid to lose you or it might harm your relationship in some way.

A good way to possibly introduce him to swinging would be to invite another woman to share him with. He may be thinking that you are only interested in it for your pleasure, but if you make it known that you would find it sexy to see him enjoying himself too, it might make a difference.