anal dillema
 

My partner and I are trying to do anal. We have tried a couple of things like fingers, and a vibrator.
Now the problem is that I am ready enough to go but every time we get to the stage of him putting himself in me, we get to the tip of his penis he goes down.
We do use lots of lube. We know that as a 1st time you need to take it slow as what we have read, so if we go any faster I will be in too much pain, and any slower he goes down.
Can anyone experienced in this please help me

we've never had the problem, but perhaps a cock ring would help keep him...eh-hem...up for the task.

would that same procedure apply to a tightly fitted condom do you think??

gee, i dunno. worth a shot i s'pose.

Something else to consider is talking dirty to him. Describe to him how ready you are to feel his big cock up inside your tight backdoor. How you can't wait to feel his balls resting against your ass, feeling him buried deep inside you. It doesn't have to those exact words, say what feels comfortable, but let him know how excited you are to be doing this with him... I know it would get me rock hard. :)

mmmmm dirty talk...now that's a given!

i was thinking, looloo. when you say too much pain... perhaps you are tensing up in expectation of it, the pain i mean. that would make it harder for him to enter and increase your disconfort as well.

It sounds like both of you are so busy concentrating on getting you ready that he's left just kinda hanging around. (bad pun, sorry) I've found it helps to not only talk as Aqua suggested but keep him hard by stroking him with your hand as he's working on you. And a few minutes before he tries to enter you, suck on his cock. If he started to soften this will bring him right back and if you're lubed you'll remain ready. Just concentrate on relaxing yourself. It's well worth the effort. Good luck. :)

Wine *cheers*

Damn!!! *faints*

I agree with this

usually works for me!

Anal
 

If you have done all the pre work with fingers and vibrators he should be able to just slide in. Maybe you need to find a dildo or vibrator the same size as partner. Then he would not have to go slow, you would already be ready for him.

Despite years of fingers and vibes and toys, he does not just slide in. It's not goig to be the same experience for everyone.

Seems that maybe he's anxious not to hurt you by going too fast, which is a good thing for him to be a considerate lover, but the down side is anything that breaks a guy's concentration is liable to have a deflating effect...which means, as others have suggested, that continuous foreplay & a little dirty talk during the prep stage might just help things along...

Has he ever used Viagra, It might help this situation.

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