I'm at a loss
 

Talk about push-me-pull-you!!

On one hand i've got the schools of my eldest son, (this has been going on since preschool) telling me he has Aspergers or such and on the other i've got my sons peadiatrician telling me he doesnt (since preschool)...he's just a kid

He did have ADD and was on medication for a some years...but has been off it for a bit now...now 'cause he's very emotional (always has been) and not behaving properly (disjointed was her words) and i must say he has been a difficult at home too...but i put it down to hormones and attitude (teenager anyone??)

I'm about to have a brain snap....My sanity is hanging on by a thread let me tell you

Aother appointment with the school for Friday...another appointment of the same concerns and i can see another appointment with the peadiatrician *sigh*...it just seems to be a vicious circle and i fucking dread it!

I do not know what to do with him...i dont know how to figure out how to help him..i dont even know how to explain how i feel..upset is one feeling i spose

I dont expect advice...i'm just so worked up i need to get it out

Has the pediatrician sent him to a psychologist? They would be able to diagnose whether it's chemical, educational, or what.

(((((hugs)))) for you and him too.

I was also wondering what you think? What do you think it is?

I knew my son had cerebral palsy before the neurologist said the words because a few Drs. or social workers had mentioned things to drop hints. Once I did some checking I was sure that was his problem.

Of all the things you have been told, what do you think fits the issues your son is having?

No he hasn't but it is one suggestion i will be bringing up....

*hugz*

I honestly dont know Lil...

Depression maybe?
If its aspergers it is a very mild form...i have friends with kids with aspergers
He does stuff he bloodywell knows he isnt supposed to and then get the 'everyone hates me' attitude when he gets into trouble
He has no self pride at all
Can't stay on track with anything

I don't care if he DOES have something....i just wanna know WTF it is so we can deal with it

Ahhhhhhhhhhh :banghead:

(((((Alasse))))) ~~ I've nothing more to offer than a hug. Sorry.

Has he tried Paxil? I know he took meds for the ADD but the meds for ADD are not good for Aspergers and vice versa. I know kiddos who have done very well on Paxil, it's both an anti-depressant and an anti-anxiety. It can help if he has any stims or OCD type behaviors.

(((Osuche))) that is greatly appreciated let me tell you

No he hasnt....he took Dexyamphitimine (sp?) for the ADD....he seemed to go real well on it and settled quite a bit....thats why he was taken off it later

Sorry I'm playing 20 questions and really what you need is love and support. It's just that kids like yours and the issues their families face is what I am on this Earth for.

I respect you so much for never giving up even when it's tearing you up.

Its ok Lil...20 questions is good...might help me see somethings i've missed

I dont give up cause i love him....even when he is a turd *L* (well after maybe) :)

Is there a reason these “authorities” are using you as a conduit? Why has such conflicting prognosis not at least resolved their differences after such a time period? I don’t see your job as suppose to be appeasing both or picking a winner, but making them come to a valid conclusion so you all can get on with dealing with the situation.

Because 'they' dont get together....i get the honour of having to deal with them

(((((Alassë)))))

I know some parents are reluctant to change docs when one has cared for their child all his/her life, but have you asked your sons pediatrician if he could be missing something that a second opinion might help diagnose? Sometimes two heads are better than one. Another pediatrician that a good friend could recommend perhaps?

I don't know what tests are involved in the things mentioned but I wanted to try and offer an alternative for you to consider. Teens are so unpredictable as it is but if their was an underlying reason for your son's behavior I hope someone can find it so that you can deal with it.

My thoughts are with you!

The pediatrician was recommended to us by many people including our family GP...He's one of the best our city has to offer.....takes nearly 6-7 months sometimes more to get into see him...i trust his judgement...he has done the tests that are sposed to indicate Aspergers...while he had some symptoms...so do many people...and nowhere enough to diagnose him

Well i did learn something tonight.....he is being major bullied (what is it with teens and giving any info easily)...he went to the teachers and the result was two of the worst bullies were suspended.....well now they are back and after revenge...they are making his life a living hell apparently

Anyway at the appointment with the school that issue will most definately be addressed....and it better be solved or i will be looking at a different school for him...and that will not be easy let me tell you...