Mindset Re: Sex
 

My whole life up until a few months ago was very complicated. Since then and because of reasons I'd rather not get into, my life has gotten much simpler. I have a new outlook and mindset on life in general. To sum it up, for once in my 27yrs, I'm just wanting to have a little fun. I've never been to a bar or a concert or any of that. I've lived a very isolated life. Now I want to get out for a while and mix it up a little. My entire sex life is made up of 4 women and 2 men. I've probably kissed less than a dozen girls. I've been married once, engaged at least two times in addition to that. I look at entering any relationship as requiring the same loyalty and commitment as marriage and see sex outside a relationship as something to avoid at all costs. At least that's how I used to see it. Now, I just don't know. I know I want to have fun and forget the last 8yrs that only consisted of one night's worth of sex. These days, realizing the last time I was having sex on a regular basis I was 19 makes me realllllllly want to change all that. I'm not the public or even the 'dating' type, any suggestions?

You are not going to drastically change your life if you remain the private or non-dating type.

You need to meet fresh contacts and explore new environments.

It may be that you need to start visiting bars, drinking non-alcoholic stuff if you don't want to get drunk. It's about becoming comfortable in challenging environments with unfamiliar people.

If you have any hobbies you might try looking for clubs in your area. LAN parties are a fun nerdy place for those of us into gaming and there are a lot more women getting into it than previously portrayed.

Marl and I started our own club just to meet new people and make new friends. Granted it's a swingers club but they're a lot of fun to hang out with dressed too! Bonus no one gets mad if I flirt with their husband or if their wift ends up on my lap!!

woohoo

Kyttn

I'll second Oldfart & BamaKyttn. To move from where you have been to where you want to be, you'll need to change what you do, or do other things in addition to what you already do.

Take stock of yourself, play to what you see to be your strengths, and avoid repeating what has been unsatisfactory.

I've posted my short form before. Just sayin'.