Bright Eyes... you can do better than just be a married man's booty call (or email).

I'm married and I'm no angel. It's damned hard for men to be 100% faithful, even to women we love more than life. Infidelity is preternaturally hard-wired into our hunter-gatherer concsiousnesses. We can do our best to resist the temptations though. No matter how good that hot blond who works the counter at Starbucks looks, I would never cheat on my wife. I might stroke off to her a few times, but that's just about as far as I'd take it.

If I did cheat on my wife, I would not ask my mistress to continue being a mistress while I stayed with my wife. A man (or woman) has emotional responsibilities to those involved with him (her). My mother taught me the golden rule as a child and it applies universally. Hard to speculate I know, but how would your man do if the shoe were on the other foot? Would you put him in the position he's put you?

It sounds like you have developed feelings that are beyond your control. Your actions however, are never beyond your control. Do what is best for you. If it's sex you need, you can find that anywhere. Trust me. Not to be rude, but even really ugly women can find it if they look hard enough. You sound like a really sweet, thoughtful woman. I'm sure there are guys out there that would love to get know you both on a human level and a biblical level, if you get my drift.

I know it would be hard, but I would have to end the relationship with this man. Neil Sedaka was right, breaking up is hard to do, but sometimes doing the right thing is also the hardest thing. Do what is right for you.

I hope my advice helps.

-A man who truly loves his wife

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"Even a man who is pure of heart
And says his prayers by night
Can become a wolf when the wolfbane blooms
And the moon is full and bright."