Just want to add some of my thoughts -- this world we live in is not always safe .... a woman even in the best circumstances has to at least be aware that there are men who are stronger physically then she is and could take advantage of that fact. I'm not saying that we continue to think that about guys we've come to know and care for, but in my life at least I open to others gradually ..... If you're thinking that chatting with a woman for a few minutes means you can then immediately move to the next level in a "relationship" - then you may need to slow down the process a bit ....

When I come on the internet and am dealing with my own sexuality -- it's not necessarily about building a relationship - it's about filling an immediate need ... those (at least for me) are 2 entirely different issues and I approach each of them with different prespectives. So yes, I can appreciate the pictures of men and the descriptions of what each person likes, it doesn't necessarily mean that I'd appreciate the same thing being said to me on one of my early dates with a guy I was dating and wanting to build a relationship with. ..... I don't think that's a double standard, it's different requirements for different objectives.