Thanks for a detailed reply, Loulabelle. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that intercourse is not the kinkiest thing between the sheets. I would find it a lot more exciting if it were coupled with kinkier activities, like talking dirty, role playing, bondage, toys, master/slave fantasies, or even smaller things like her rubbing her clit during sex. I think that would be a good compromise: I’d enjoy intercourse and my wife would get what she wants. But she sees sex mainly as an expression of love, and is very hesitant to try the kinkier stuff because it’s not a direct expression of love like slow sex in candlelight and looking into each other’s eyes. She is also worried that I would no longer love and respect her if she does some of the kinkier activities, despite my assurances to the contrary. What I’m hoping to do is to draw her out, encourage her to be more open and sexually adventurous, and improve our sex life in the process. She agreed that she wants to move in that direction herself. Posting here was a first step for her. Maybe with time and some encouragement from the good people here she would post some pics of herself.