I've passed on sex because of being tired, but keep in mind that Mrs. WI is rarely agressive about initiating intimacy. If she were persistant, she would probably have talked me into it.

I've also regretted having sex when I wasn't in the mood. It's hard to describe, but I experienced a kind of "anticlimactic feeling" afterwards. Dunno. Not that the sex was bad or that I didn't enjoy being with her, just that I just didn't get something out of it and I still don't know what it was that I missed.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.