I disagree. Before, I would state my preferences and usually nothing would come out of it. She would not “do her own research, ask her own questions and reach her own conclusions.” She would simply go “whew, glad he stopped talking about it, now we can go back to normal sex” and forget about it. It took me a while to realize it, but simply stating a preference and then dropping the subject is not enough, at least for now. I need to find out why she is hesitant to do something, do my own research, and convince or even push her a little. I also suspect that she is a closet submissive and finds it easier and more enjoyable to do something (even something simple like spreading her legs) when she is told to do it, as opposed to doing it on her own initiative, which makes her feel slutty.



I completely agree about compromising. As I said in the other thread, she wants more intercourse, I want a kinkier sex life, and we can compromise on these grounds. If she’s more adventurous in bed, I’d enjoy intercourse more, and we’d both get what we want.



My boundaries are already way out there. There is pretty much nothing I wouldn’t do for my wife sexually, excepting deeply illegal stuff and anything resulting in permanent injuries.