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Originally Posted by agaethwe
My boundaries are already way out there. There is pretty much nothing I wouldn’t do for my wife sexually, excepting deeply illegal stuff and anything resulting in permanent injuries.
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I'd beg to disagree, I'm afraid.
In the other thread that Alba started, she complained that the two of you do not have enough intercourse. I can't help but think that perhaps there are intimacy issues which make you shy away from this most natural, instinctive and satisfying form of phyiscal love. Pushing YOUR boundaries means being willing to have intercourse without it being kinky and without making Alba feel slutty, since it's this kind of contact she feels is lacking.
Personally I adore kinky, dirty sex, but that doesn't mean that I don't ever set the scene with candles, soft music and a bottle of something sparkling and chilled to enjoy a night of romantic love making.
Obviously I'm not in your bedroom with you, but from what you put on the other post, it seems you two have much more oral sex than you do intercourse because YOU think intercourse is boring. The compromise here isn't necessarily to have 'kinkier' intercourse but for you to learn to appreciate the more subtle and emotionally intense pleasures of making love.
Most couples tend to start out in the early days with this plain and simple expression of love and then move on to the more 'mature' delights of oral sex, role playing, erotica etc but from Alba's post it seems that you pushed along and almost surpassed that first phase altogether. Perhaps she feels that she's missed out on something and perhaps if you were more willing to push at your boundaries, by giving her the kind of intercourse she craves, she'd also be more willing to experiment with the things that interest you.
Sex is about giving freely to another person, but it's not just about giving what you want to give.
Sounds like you have a sexual wish list as long as your arm, and she's trying her best to meet at least some of those wants and desires (such as the oral sex, which she doesn't particularly enjoy), while she only appears to have one thing on her wish list and you begrudge giving her that unless it can be on your terms so that you find it more enjoyable.
Alba hun, I hope I haven't overstepped the mark, please please please correct me if you disagree...I don't want to be taking your voice away from you.