I have to agree that I am not generally turned on by pics of naked men, especially if it's just their member. I need context, I need a face! I am glad I am not the only woman out there who feels the same way. And, I must say I prefer looking at the ladies, though I don't swing that way. They are just more soft and smooth and pretty. Men, just more utilitarian.

And to respond to agaethwe:

"And flirting is great, but only if it leads somewhere… there has to be a possibility of sex involved. Flirting for its own sake seems somewhat pointless. "

I find that flirting is *more* fun if you know it's not going anywhere. That way you can keep it up indefinitely without it having to end once you've "consummated" the relationship. I've had several male friendships that involved a certain amount of flirtation that we both knew would not lead to anything. It added a zing to the friendship that you just don't get with women (at least I thought so).