My wife and I have 3 kids, all grown now, and I remember we waited about 2 or 3 weeks after until we resumed activity and she wanted it doggie style the first time. I must say that I didn'r fight her on this, lol. I think the decrease in sex drive after birth comes from a lot of factors most of which are related to exhaustion. If there is a great deal of sharing of responsibility then sex becomes great again. Barring some type of trauma during birth of course or whether there have been medical complications. You see, Ms Pussy, it is very complicated. Whenever physical, medical, and emotional concerns come into play it is very tricky. If love and desire existed before the birth then love and desire will be there after the birth. Good luck to you and your man and may you be fulfilled in all your dreams for your child.