If one person weren't interested at all...and were unwilling even though they knoew their partner *needed* sex...I would tend to believe that sexless partner were somewhat selfish.

Personally, I would tend to advocate discussing the situation and coming to an understanding...either (1) sexless partner compromises by having some sex becauses/he loves the other party and wants to make them happy, or (2) sexless partner agrees to allow mate to find a substitute, or (3) they decide to get divorced.

I think making the decision without a discussion is a BAD idea.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney