I've often stated that sex is a good barometer for a relationship. If issues arise in a relationship, one partner or the other doesn't feel that enthusiastic about climbing into bed and having tender emotional or rip-roaring break the bed sex. Work is needed outside of the bedroom and the only way to do that is through honest and good communication. Odds are, you already know what the reason is as to why they don't want sex, but if you don't...ask. You're half of the couple and if sex is important to you, then you are at least due a conversation about why it's not important to them.

Is this a recent development or has it been this way from the start?

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.