Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

I am constantly horny but that is different from feeling sexy, I think.

Physically, I exercise a decent amount and am in good shape for a guy 40. No real gut, good muscle tone, etc. Never had a six-pack gut and probably never will...but it is trim. So it isn't that I have any physical things that make feel on again/off again.

I think it is more having young kids and the consequential inability to be spontaneous that does it to me.