If you sweat it,you'll end up jumping in the same frying pan again.

If it takes a couple of years to find "miss right enough", so be it.

There are tens of thousands of gunshy girls who have clawed their way out of abusive

and hostile relationships, afraid of the same frying pan.

You need to trick them by being yourself, treating them with humour and dignity.

This way they find out if they really like you, or are just clutching to you to hold back the darkness.

Above all, relax and have some fun. If an opportunity turns up for meaningless, consentual safe sex, take it.

I just re-read this and it sounds so pompous. Sorry, but I stand by the words.

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