Dear wanderingsoul...

I seriously doubt that you and I are the only ones who can relate to your issue... at some point in everyones life... they find themselves alone... or worse.. lonely... and without the partner that one desires...

I do believe that we were created to be pairs... and as hokey as it may sound... I do believe that everyone has someone with whom they are meant to spend the remainder of their days.. whether one is lucky enough to identify them before they are gone is entirely a different matter...

Like you, I guess I could go to a bar... slam a couple back... and walk out with a man on my arm... will that particular man be "the one".... statistically the odds are not in his (or my) favor... is the 10 - 20 - 30 minute rushed conversation going to give me a clear enough glimpse into his character to determine acurately whether he is suitable... probably not.... and for these reasons (and the fact that I am not strong on the courage trait) I can't find my way into attempting it..

So instead... my dry spell continues... (with the exception of one 1 nite fling several years ago), I am going on 5 years solo without any form of sexual contact with a partner (unless of course you count batteries). It is a hard world out there... yes.. I have gotten emotionally close to a few select men here at pixies...BUT... unfortunately the net presents its own issues (distance being unfixable)... Over the last 5 years... there have been many a lonely night... but I am still here.... still kicking... and still hoping that at some point I will discover a suitable partner along the way... for me.. it is more about an emotional connection than it is about a sexual one... altho I miss sex... it isn't what keeps me awake... it is the little things that ones soul hungers for...

I wish you luck... and happiness... as your journey continues...