We have a neighbor that had a double masectomy two weekends ago. She's not married, and has a seven year old son. My youngest son is exactly a year older than her son and they get along famously. She's told us time and time again that having our son over to visit hers is a great help because it gives her son someone other than Mom to play with. We've had her son over to our house just as often as she's had our son to hers, and she's able to turn her attention to things she needs to get done, and she can even manage to rest.

We've cooked more than we need with the understanding that it goes to them, and we've baked an extra banana bread a couple of times too. (Mrs. WI was in charge of that.)

And what got the biggest reaction was the few times we've bought extra basic items while we were at the grocery store. We're there anyway, and it's so easy to grab two when we use one. We let her pay us for them but it's not about the money. It's just about the little things that really do end up being a big help. It's a good thing to have the kids bring stuff over too. They need the exposure to considerate actions...and I'm getting too old to walk all the way there. ha ha