03-21-2006, 01:41 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: Texas.
Posts: 239
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Originally Posted by Loulabelle
Sassee, maybe your parents were too strict so that you rebelled, against them?
I was never told I couldn't date, but I went to a girls' school so I didn't know that many boys. The ones I did know, my Mum knew too, and there's no way I could have seen them if my Mum didn't allow me to. My Mum trusted me and I never abused that trust. She knew where I was and who I was with the whole time, so there was no danger of me getting into an unsafe situation.
I even lost my virginity in my parents' house and my Mum knew that I was alone upstairs that night with the lad in question. I think her attitude was that she'd rather be close enough to hear me yell for help if anything got out of hand, then somewhere else where she'd have been powerless if he hadn't have taken 'no' for an answer.
I imagine, I'll adopt a similar policy with our little sprite in the dim and distant future.
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No, my parents were never very strict. Much like you said, my mom was always in the know. She knew where I was and what I was doing. But then it got to a point as I was hanging out with more and more people who didn't have that kind of relationship with their parents that I started to feel like maybe I didn't need to tell her about everything. But I never left out important details. She always knew where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing. My step-dad is a lot more strict than she is, so she even kept everything I told her to herself. If I had to ask my step-dad to go to one place when I was really going somewhere else, my mom always knew where I was really going.
When I say that I snuck around to hang out with boys, it was really more to get around my step-father. My mom never had too much of a problem with it. Which, to me, is fine because my mother is my blood parent, and while I love and respect my step-dad, his views on raising a girl (he has only one son, and my mom didn't start dating him until I was already 14, and he son is the same age as me) are very ... unfair. He would allow my step-brother to do things and punish me for doing the same things.
Anyway, the point is, I never rebelled very drastically. My mother pretty much knew what was going on all the time. And today, we still have no secrets. She's my best friend, as silly as it sounds.
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