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Originally Posted by jennaflower
Dear wanderingsoul...
I seriously doubt that you and I are the only ones who can relate to your issue... at some point in everyones life... they find themselves alone... or worse.. lonely... and without the partner that one desires...
I do believe that we were created to be pairs... and as hokey as it may sound... I do believe that everyone has someone with whom they are meant to spend the remainder of their days.. whether one is lucky enough to identify them before they are gone is entirely a different matter...
Like you, I guess I could go to a bar... slam a couple back... and walk out with a man on my arm... will that particular man be "the one".... statistically the odds are not in his (or my) favor... is the 10 - 20 - 30 minute rushed conversation going to give me a clear enough glimpse into his character to determine acurately whether he is suitable... probably not.... and for these reasons (and the fact that I am not strong on the courage trait) I can't find my way into attempting it..
So instead... my dry spell continues... (with the exception of one 1 nite fling several years ago), I am going on 5 years solo without any form of sexual contact with a partner (unless of course you count batteries). It is a hard world out there... yes.. I have gotten emotionally close to a few select men here at pixies...BUT... unfortunately the net presents its own issues (distance being unfixable)... Over the last 5 years... there have been many a lonely night... but I am still here.... still kicking... and still hoping that at some point I will discover a suitable partner along the way... for me.. it is more about an emotional connection than it is about a sexual one... altho I miss sex... it isn't what keeps me awake... it is the little things that ones soul hungers for...
I wish you luck... and happiness... as your journey continues...
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Hey Jenna and Wandering. Truth be known, there are probably more of us here without relationships than with. If these people on here, not all of them mind you, but more than you realize, were in these fantastic relationships and having all of this hott sex, than what the hell are they doing spending all of their time on here?? I have been married and divorced twice. When I was younger, I would pick up anything in a bar and go home and do the deed just for the sake of getting laid. At my age now,47, I have been pretty much alone for almost ten years. Probably been with someone six or eight times in that period. I have been set up on blind dates by friends, gone out to the bars just looking, the whole gamut. The women that I have met seem to have more baggage than a redcap at Midway and more hang-ups than a telemarketer on a bad Tuesday night.
I have gotten to the point that I really enjoy being alone. I can call work, tell them I won't be there for a few days and just take off for parts unknown, no one elses approval needed.
Jenna, I liked what you said about each of us having someone else that we are supposed to be with and ride off into the sunset together. I feel that way too. Like you, I miss sex but there is more to it. I mean...believe me. Eating pussy is right up on the top of my list, right after breathing but to reach out in the night and feel a warm body next to you, to slide over and just cuddle and be close, to be standing at the stove cooking and have someone special come from behind and wrap their arms around you and just hold you, nuzzling your neck with their lips. To sit by a campfire on a cool, dark night, holding hands and looking into that special set of eyes. That's what I miss most. Sex is easy. I have my right hand, and if I am feeling like a little strange...I switch hands!!
I hold out hope that someday that special person will come along but until then, I'll be here hoping for all of us. Have a great day!!