
05-25-2006, 07:31 PM
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Tease and Please
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Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Ohio
Posts: 2,191
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Your first step in this thing should be to make sure that you are BOTH mentally prepared for such a decision. Things can go wrong and you need to make sure you discuss all the possibilities before you actually have sex. If you both talk everything out first and are absolutely without-a-doubt sure that are ready for it, take it slow. There is a big difference between "I'm sure I'm ready" and "Yeah, I think I'm ok with it." It can be EXTREMELY painful not only the first time but also for the next few times. I would suggest some gentle fingering first (and don't be afraid to use lube because dryness = friction = owww). Listen to her. If she says stop, STOP. Ask her what feels good and what doesn't. Learn everything you can while fingering her (with her permission of course). Remember, you are stretching flesh that is not used to being stretched and that can lead to tearing. Just go slow and be on your toes about her comfort and thoughts.
MAIN POINT: "No" and "I'm not ready yet" = NO
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