I have a few questions...

Does your g/f know the person you had the experience with? Is he gay or bi...and known for it?

Did it happen in your home? In the bed you share with her? At a time when she trusted you to be doing something else?

Had you ever discussed doing something of this nature with your g/f before? Did she tell you then that it was unacceptable to her?

How did your g/f find out?

Was your child at the scene (not necessarily in the same room, but under the same roof)?





I have more questions but I'll let you answer these for starters. You don't have to answer them here if you understand where I am going with them.

Oh...and btw...you could start counseling by yourself if she won't go. It'll show sincerity and you might learn how to (a) handle the breakup or (b) earn her trust again. Ya see bunz...we don't know the whole of the story and so we can only go on what you provide. We are not professionals and work off of personal experiences and as if "the something" had happened to us. A professional can delve into you and your experience more deeply and detailed.

Hope this helps!

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