That's me too. Problem is, I have one boss that snipes at me constantly and -- quite frankly -- I avoid him because he is so incompetent and snide that I can't help but snipe back. I've tried to operate under the "if you don't have anything good to say, say nothing" principle.

My second boss has moments of grace (especially in comparison to Boss 1). However, I often make agreements with him that he then violates thanks to the intervention of Boss 1.

I've been thinking about two approaches (1) stop caring and just keep my head down and do what little they ask me to do, or (2) having a blunt conversation with Boss 2 where I explain how his actions and the actions of Boss 1 are crossing my personal boundaries.

Namely -- they make me feel marginalized and are very critical. They rob me of responsibility and go around me to work with my team. They kill the business in their reluctance to make decisions, then attempt to blame me for the results. And all of these things hurt my soul.

<sigh>

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