There's a big difference between "Mmmmm...my cock feels so good in your mouth" and "Yeah, that's it...suck my cock, you little whore".

But then, attitude is what makes the words sexy or disrespectful. And your attitude is determined outside of the bedroom.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.