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Old 06-12-2007, 08:05 AM
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Not at all Cavey- you're not ranting on, you're asking for help and we'll do what we can.

I feel so sorry that you haven't got enough of a support network around you. As for your parents, in what way are they unable to support you and your mental health? Are they simply not equipped emotionally themselves, or is it that they don't take your issues seriously? Are they part of the problem rather than the solution? I'm not trying to pry, but just trying to understand what the block is there....I mean, if it were simply them not being 'that kind of person' you'd be amazed at how people can rise to the occasion if they realise how much you really need them.

I can totally relate to feeling like you're the one everyone offloads on, and not feeling that you can offload onto anyone else, but sometimes, that's because we see ourselves too much in the 'agony aunt' role and it's hard to ask for help from friends. Funny thing is, with the friends we really love, we'd be heartbroken to find out that they'd struggled on alone when we could have helped.

If you have just one close friend for whom you've been there in the past, I suggest you bite the bullet and get in touch. The chances are, they'll be more than happy to do anything they can to help, even though that probably will just mean listening to you. I know it's sometimes very difficult to ask a friend for help - particularly if you don't feel you have anyone that you're REALLY close to, but remember that it's sharing things like this that make you closer to friends. If you don't share the odd crisis with someone, you won't get past the casual acquaintance phase so just take the risk. Be brave and talk to someone.

Of course if you really feel you don't have anyone you can share things with in the real world, you're always welcome to come here and talk to us. We'll listen but not knowing you in real life, it's sometimes harder for online friends to help out as much as real world ones. We'll always try our best for you though.

Lou
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