I've been a best man a couple of times and thus got to throw the bachelor parties for my buddies. There was one occasion where the bride to be was very much against us having the "traditional" bachelor party. My best friend let me know of his fiance's concerns (which I was already very aware of) so I sat down with her (at his request) and talked it out. I honored her wishes and we ended up doing a guy's weekend in Chicago going to a Cubs game, hitting the bars on Rush St. and going to The House of Blues. We had just as much fun, if not more, than we would've had we gone to the strip clubs and such.

Actually, I had more fun that weekend than I ever have at any other bachelor party. The groom was happy, the bride was happy and all of the guys who went had a blast.

There's always the option of having parties at the same time too. I've never done that but have heard that they can be fun.

But yeah, I do think it needs to be a mutual decision on what kind of party is appropriate/accepted.

Oh and congrats on the engagement!

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