first time poster here. I would like to say something about my own first sexual experiences. I could not orgasm during sex. I masturbate nearly every night, and thought that this was my problem. I had sex at least 7 or 8 times with 3 different partners. You need to learn to just let it all go. dont worry about how it feels, or if your pleasuring her. I took paxil and when i first started taking it, i couldnt orgasm, but after a few weeks that stopped.