My statements was concerning third party reference or comments outside the bedroom. There is just a negative inference to those terms, at least to me, that cast a shadow on the person and the act that is not part of what an intimate relation includes for myself.

When it comes to 'passion talk' (I honestly don't like to think of it as "dirty" talk) and the bedroom door closes, I not only am happy to be verbal when the sweaty passion is edging upward, I love to hear it from and for both of us. Tooth gritting words like 'pussy licker and 'cock sucker' definitely fan the heat of the moment. They are equals to 'right there', 'GIVE ME!', 'like that' and 'OMG', and are something that very much heightens the apex we are approaching. Actually, it would be a constraint for me not to just let flow the words 'cunt juice' (no pun intended) at the moment of grinding passion. But these are all very passionate and positive adverbs of our pleasure and the others are just not in the same vane, but are derogatory adjectives about the person and our act. That's the difference in my mind.

There is a series of porn flicks that I find VERY hot where you hear the director in the background giving directions and calling the woman every nasty name you can think of that bothers and distracts so much that I mute the sound and just add my own comments.

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