I've always had this problem when I'm with someone new. I don't think it's worrying about being great in the sack, just not being with that person for very long seems to effect me that way. I always just explain it and know that one night stands aren't for me.

Oh and, it's not age. I'm 25.

I think the idea of having him watch you would work but the best way is probably to ask him what he'd like to see/help you do in that situation or just for an extra fun night. If watching/helping you get off makes him rise to the occasion, then you can have your cum and he can eat it too.

The above posters are exactly right though, patience and understanding are key. If he gets frustrated, that part of the night is over. Because no matter what he does to you, he could have that nagging voice of doubt in the back of his head the whole time. Not fun at all. Trust me.

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