Sands,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know from personal experience that things -yes, even bad things- happen for a reason. As time goes by I'm learning that as bad as things were for me, things could certainly have been worse. After all was said and done I emerged from my "Baptism of Fire" a much stronger person. I can not help but think the same will (eventually) happen to you...

Fight the good fight, Love.

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I'm your Huckleberry.