Recorded in classical greece, though probably has roots much further back. I've always liked it as it addresses the compromise that we adhere to in accepting a preference for the stability of marriage for society generally over our individual desires, and gives an outlet as a pressure valve so to speak.

I used to think about it, and yes from a similar time into my marriage. But I don't now. I don't know why it started, nor why it stopped. I never discussed it with my wife as she was always very clear about sexual monogamy.

I think the fact that monogamy is unnatural for apes generally gives rise to this fantasy, mixed with a little danger-seeking, voyeurism, testing yourself etc

I've read plenty of threads here warning of the dangers.

Have you tried a video of the two of you yet. Looking at that may be like a toe in the water.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.