Deal breakers sometimes turnout heart breakers. I've been there. To my astonishment my heart is just ignorant enough to not know that a break is about to hit, and after having been shredded before! I've been left standing without, & have walked, knowing it would be good-bye. Both ways is a painful drag and interferes with the "feel good" quotient.
In all I've discovered that in my search for some satisfactions there are way-points just as in navigating the seas. In living and finding for ones self intimate indulgences there are storms and favorable winds all in the same day at times. Learning the signs that lead to whirlpools or cyclones only works when I heed the warning or follow the true sign to my sexual/sensual goal.
(dawn)
red sky in morning sailors take warning;
red sky at night sailors delight! (dusk)
It may be time to try a different or new tack in your navigating the negotiations in your love relationship. It doesn't mean you've change. It means you've reached an understanding about your own efforts to experiment sexually/sensually.
Decide for yourself if what you want is something you are willing to pursue until you have it, or; if you can drop it and pay it no thought ever again.
Is it a deal breaker?
Don't do this too soon. The other person may want to go where you'd like to go, but is in another cultural mindset {this term "cultural mindset" is extremely vague. Only because of my limited brain}.
Be awesomely alert to nuances and body language whilst making love.
Be prepared to introduce minute gradients (tiny advances) in the pursuit of your goal in sex play. Show that you are not unwilling to do the very same that you're asking.
intercourse
/ˈɪntərˌkɔrs, -ˌkoʊrs/ Show Spelled[in-ter-kawrs, -kohrs] Show IPA
noun
1.dealings or communication between individuals, groups, countries, etc.
2.interchange of thoughts, feelings, etc.
3.sexual relations or a sexual coupling, especially coitus.
Words might fuck up a good opportunity, when a small action step in the desired direction could provide the sought after ice breaker.
WHAM ! !
You may have adroitly found the path to higher shared sensuality.
In the game of cards of life one "ice-breaker" trumps one "deal-breaker."