Enjoyment is the key.........and the modes of enjoyment are as diverse as people are from one another.
I dated a lady in college that during our sophomore year set up for herself, a gangbang in our house with my roomies and buddies. She received numerous facials and while her personal enjoyment was not readily apparent, after it was all over and we had a chance to reflect, she and I had our most impassioned lovemaking ever. So I concluded that she did enjoy the experience despite her apparent indifference while it was happening.
Pretty hard to make judgments, eh?

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Lots of people talk and few of them know, soul of a woman was created below

I can't get through to her 'cause it doesn't permit
But I'm gonna give her everything I've got to give.

I hear your sweet voice calling
out my name
As I stare from a six foot cell
And from beyond I heard the words
Deceptively Yours